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Me and my partner have had sex atleast 4 times and we've tried different positions. for some reason I can't seem to have an orgasm. he's fingered me, eaten me out and he's pretty good. it feels really good but I just haven't been able to. i feel really bad because he thinks its his fault.
I've come close to on my own but haven't.
is this normal?
Four times? Did you instantly master anything else you've tried in your life after only four times? No matter what you do, it sometimes takes a little trial and error to find out how to make it all work. You probably just need more practice and familiarity with yourself and each other.
Instead of focusing on the orgasm, just think about the rest of what's going on and how much you enjoy it. You sound like you still have fun, so stop putting that performance anxiety at the forefront.
try getting him to pay attention to the clit when he goes down on you next. And you have homework, work out what you like via masturbation.