I can't handle too much love, is it normal?

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i have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months, i really love him, but lately he's being too sweet to me, i try to justify it that maybe he's too romantic, or maybe because im the first girl in his life. I really cant handle it when he becomes too sweet, we spend hours and hours talking and he says nothing but love words, we dont even discuss anything serious and when i try to bring up a serious topic just to get out of the sweet mood he never seems willing to discuss anything, he ends the topic and starts telling those sweet words. For me it becomes depressing and i feel guilty sometimes because i dont respond the same way, i think to myself that he doesn't give me time to miss him or tell him that i really need him or show him how much i love him because i hear that from him 100 times everyday.
am i normal ??? because i know that most girls love to be treated that way, but for me i find it suffocating,or does it have something to do with his character?? please help please ... i want to save this relationship before his too much loving becomes a turn off for me !!!!!

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    In most relationships one person loves the other one more. And normally when this is clear their lover (you) gets anxious. They don't realize but showering someone with love puts them under pressure to return that love. If they can't return it they might feel guilty or awkward.

    My advice is you be the one that starts a conversation. Talk about anything else have a back and forth. If you don't want him to shower you with compliments don't give him a chance.

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  • Tisgranum
    12 years ago

    I think many women would get bored of this and that many have. There are plenty of guys like that and I've heard them called doormat amongst other things.

    I think he should snap out of it and that he's doing it just as much for himself as he is doing it for you. This lovey dovey stuff is best received in proper time frames.

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  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago

    I know exactly what ur mean, because im like ur BF, well i like to think i was, but old habits die hard. Its cause hes a romantic, but this is the trap that we can fall into. U need to tell him in a positive way, that u love him and what he does but that hes being to sufficating.

    Its a hard lesson to learn that is usually learned the hard way. Its a balancing act that im still prefecting, but there is hope he can. Its hard, but he needs to think of how he is precieved by the person on the other end of his cutesyness. And try to learn when hes crossing the line between cute and annoying. There is a time for romance and a time for relationship building. the two aree linked, but no alway the same thing.

    Goodluck,

    and maybe if it helps he could read this from somebady that has lost girls due to his "too cuteness". U dont have to be like that all the time, even if u want to, it want she wants. and that should be what makes u happy if shes happy.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      thank you ... you helped alot and made me feel better about myself.. and now i know what to tell him.

      I really appreciate it <3

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      • shuggy-chan
        12 years ago

        i hope it works out for u.. its idk bad day for me today, but reading that i may have helped u, cheered me up a lil...thanks.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    12 years ago

    Hahaha - Stop wispering sweet nothings in my ear god dammint and talk to me about the sub-prime motgage crisis!

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    More girls need to be so blessed to have your problems, its a shame you do not enjoy the affection while it lasts!

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  • Thundermonkey39
    11 years ago

    This is his first relationship and he doesn't want to lose you but it is normal for this to happen I would know because this has happen to me

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  • Artanis186
    12 years ago

    I'd be lieing if I said it was normal by definition. Sure, there's nothing wrong with it, but afaik it's probably not a normal thing. But I'm not a girl, so what do I know?

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