I can't get over my miscarriage

I thank you for your kind comments, and I can sympathise with you and what you went through.

The guy I was with (yes, he was the one who wanted to sleep with my twin) and I are broken up and I am healing.

Will I ever find a man and get pregnant again? Hard to say. Like I said, for me, childbirth is not recommended and it would pose a deadly health risk, but who knows, if I found a guy who Loved me andwhome I could love - I would take it, maybe...

Thanks again Bud!

October Marie

Why do people need to reproduce so badly. Isn't the world already overpopulated??? And your bf sounds like a total tool who would love his child mire than the mother of the child. He's obviously just gonna leave you after you give birth. He didn't even visit you in the hospital when u were depressed. Isn't that warning sign enough ?

Ur bf needs to get a grip cuz he is blunt it on u and it's not ur fault and anyone that thinks it is ur fault is not worth it...what kind of dad would he be if he is like that...maybe God had it this way for a reason maybe this man was not meant to be the father of ur children cuz whatever happens is God's will.

Some people want kids and some people don't, if you can't have kids well i dont think u can do anything. If your boyfriend really wants them most likely you guys probobly wont last. Especially if he is mad at you for something you cant control.

Your 'boyfriend' is a jerk, and not worth your time at all. He's supposed to be there for you, and help you, not get mad at something you can't control.

I don't know what it is like to lose a baby but my mom did lose my brother a week before he was born and I know that he is in a better place today and always will be (:
and about depression
I was depressed out of my time in high school even though I made it to CU and drugs and stuff were there but it took over me and I decide to start over and 20 and go to Juliard and srart over, and now look I have been in 4 Broadway Productions and I love my job. Anything is possible, I bid you luck (:

It is normal for a very depressed person to feel guilty of what is not her fault and to cling to anybody, reaching for some help. That bastard is pure garbage. Get away from him at once and for all and pull yourself together again and live a good life. You are a good person, you are a good woman and you deserve so much better. If you are a catholic think that by staying with that stupid you are committing a kind of suicide. Don't do that.

its all normal, i just think your boyfriend is suppose to be there for you thru all these hard times your going thru. When u call him your boyfriend his suppose to be your everything such as bestfriend, bakbone and right hand. you should confront him about being more caring.. you are not selfish at all, you are just concerned about having your baby normally. you are stressing too much. just take it ez, everything will be great.

It's normal... I lost my twins about 2 years ago, it takes a while, but it does get better. Yoor boyfriend is being a bit unhelpful are yoo sure yoo want him around if that is how he's gonna act?

Yoo can always try again in the future when yoo are ready (: x <3

Its normal yes, but you can always try again.....

Oh who couldn't forget October......

wow your still on here tobra. i havent logged on in like a year. and the only person i rememberd was you

It's normal. I had a miscarriage and I didn't even want a kid, nor in the future. I miscarried at 6 weeks and was devastated. It was hard getting over the physical and mental pain it caused and took me a good 6 weeks to feel okay about what happened.

He can't blame u u cuntroll it

If your bf is that into having a kid with you he should have asked you to marry him.

i read your last post, and i think you had the miscarriage on purpose. you need to review blindly thelast message u posted. u didint seem hpapy about having the kidk you seemed scared. so you didnt want a kid and this isnt your man. get over it and go somewhere else. you knew it from the start.

Your miscarriage is tragic.

But I don't think you are being very realistic about the abysmally poor and unsupportive relationship you have with this man.

Why you would want to risk your health and attempt another pregnancy with this man is a question you need to get honest with yourself about pronto - it is very poor judgement.

Give yourself time to heal. Find a partner who cares & supports you first, and then any offspring.

You're normal, you're boyfriend, in my opinion isn't. Does he not understand how hard things are for you?!

that makes me feel sick that some one would treat you like that after you have just been through such difficult times. DUMP HIS ASS!
although i am male if i was in your situation no matter how much i loved someone i would be either stupid or dead to have to stay with him.

oh and the comment about Liverpool in:
http://isitnormal.com/story/i-regret-marrying-my-husband-i-want-someone-rich-24523/
that was harsh
Scousers may be the claiming most of the English taxpayers money but that doesn't mean we rape animals....

Please come back, I have stated this before but I need someone to counterbalance my "guyness" on this site. Your opinion is valued and respected, if only by me. However, I think others truly appreciate it as well.

Paul
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Just seeing if you read this yet, and I doubt you have. You stated in your original post the following:

Odds are also better than average that childbirth could kill me. I am willing to take that chance, but I am not sure I am willing to risk the life of another baby (I am catholic)

and lets break this down logically as I understand as Bethany (Fiance) is Catholic and I am more of a nonbeliever, sorry for that.

If she failed to have a child and she really does want one, she will be distraught and sadden for a long time. She will feel unloved and hate herself. HOWEVER, she would not give up because...

If you never try again, no child will ever come from it. If you try and failed and the child dies, you did everything you could do to have him/her and life denied you of this. However, if you try and it is born, you will feel so much better that you didn't give up. Isn't the chance to become a mother more important than "what ifs?"

I'm an athiest, not by choice but I wish I had your faith, but if god does exist - he will grant you a child. You seem like a good person and far above and beyond the trash that get that gift of a child for free and do not respect it.

However, if you are denied after trying again and again, then could you really keep your faith in "Him" and would you still waste time in church when you see white trash people doing a piss poor job with their children while you are struggling in your chair?

I think, honestly, your not afraid of trying and failing, I think you are afraid of losing your faith in something you hold dear. I can respect that and I wish I had your faith, I truly do. However, you have to ask yourself, if I am right, which is more important to you?

Thanks for the comments and thoughts people.

It is hard but I am dealing a little bettr now

October - Head Held High