I can't get over my gf's "web cheating."

Run bro, just run. Being that I'm a girl, trust me. She's obviously emotionally attached to him if she's willing to risk her relationship with you for some guy she "can't see." Then best believe if the distance wasn't there you'd be fucked.

Basically, she's probably holding on to you because she can't have him. I could be over-thinking it being the cold calculating b* I am but...not gonna lie, girls are like that. I'm just giving it to you honestly. Lol.

Well ...

first off i'm against snooping - if you HAVE to snoop then you're in the wrong relationship to begin with.

Second - it appears you and she have different ideas on what is "cheating".

For some cheating is only sex, for others it's kissing... for me my limits are closer to yours - even cybersex is cheating in my opinion.

I would suggest figuring out if you can tolerate that... or if you feel it may progress to more physical cheating on her part.

but no matter what.... in my opinion... If you HAVE to snoop you shouldn't be with that person anyway. You should be with someone you can trust

dump her and move on. if you dont you will regret it.

This is a hard one, sounds like the trust is already broken and that's a hard thing to get back.

You really need to think and ask your self if you are willing to put this behind you and more forward other wise you will find your self checking her email every day waiting to find something. Come up with ideas she may have sent the pictures and just deleted the sent email and will systematically tear everything apart.

I would dump her no good, lying ass! That type of behavior is the lowest of the low! You can never trust someone like that again! They will just find better ways to cover their tracks. And the not knowing will be too much to live with. Dump her and find someone that actually is a "good girl" with "morals". Emotional relationships on the Internet are just as much cheating as f'ing someone... Almost worse in my opinion, because it's not just physical.

Wow what a bitch n if you marry her it won't last

i think if shes really showing how sorry she is and she is being open about things from now on you should forgive her and get over it. i understant why your upset but everyone makes mistakes, just try and move on.

I know something similar that happened, and the person actually had an email account no one knew about, not even their partner. And that was where all hell went down. Be careful.

^ I lol'd.

Also, I would just get over it. I'm sorry to be like that, but it doesn't seem like a massive issue so long as was before you met eachother, so it doesn't seem like cheating at all to me. Tell her that you can't get over it easily, and I'm sure things will work out in good time. You've already said that you are really open with eachother so it should be fairly easy for you to do this.

I feel so bad for you. My boyfriend of over 4 years did something similar except much worse. He was doing the online sex thing girls he met over the Internet, trading naked pics, and then jerking off to them. How disgusting!!!! I will never get over it. I hate to say it but I regret every single day not leaving him right then and there. You should get out before the relationship gets more serious. If you do decide to stay you should leave if she does anything else! Seriously you have my deepest sympathy!! I really know how devastated you must be feeling. Try to feel better!

It's not right, but it was only once and you know that, and it was only her topless. Fuck, most of my friends have seen me topless cus when were out in the woods hiking and it's hot I dont give a fuck xD

Point being, people make mistakes and it's right to be upset, but if its the only thing she's done wrong in 2 years...

Obviously if she's gonna show herself topless to another guy while dating you, she doesn't care nor love you. I don't normally call women any degrading names but she's the exception I'm making. She's a fucking whore for doing that. I wouldn't take the chance to stay with her. How can someone that loves you do something that hurts you that much and then begs for forgiveness.. fuck this shit. See how her relationship is gonna go with that other dude.

Whats her email address?

oh i almost forgot, if someone is that important to you, miles and miles is not a really big deal. like i said, we were living in other countries and still, we were thinking abotu visiting each other. he was poor so he couldnt afford it, i know bec i had seen his house in videos etc. but we were saving money for that. SO IF IT HAD BEEN THAT IMPORTANT, THEY WOULD HAVE FUCKED A MILLION TIMES BY NOW.

first of all, sorry that this is long but i would read this if i were you. and i would like to add, that i'm a really jealous person who gets jealous even when her boufriend watches porn or says something nice about a girl. look, i wouldnt be that hard on your girlfriend. what she did was wrong alright, but it doesnt mean that she doesnt love you or believe in monogamy. i did the same thing with my ex boyfriend. i was with him and i loved him, but i was also talking to a married guy who lived very very far away -on another continent- and we were trading naked pics. i was thinking about him all the time and we kept doing this for a year. we were speaking with each other so often that it caused problems between him and his wife, who was actually kinda okay with physically cheating.i thought i got emotionally attached to him, but then we had a fight and we stopped talking. and suddenly i stopped thinking about him at all. it was like he never existed. i think it was because i was a little bit bored of my relationship and wanted something sexually different and it didnt feel like cheating at all. this happened 2 years ago and this year he added me on facebook and i thought of doing the same thing with him, but not because i was so into it, but because i was wondering what happened in his life and if he would still find me attractive. and because 2 years ago was a good time in my life and i wanted to feel like i used to feel back then for a second. and we talked for like 2-3 days and i didnt see him online on facebook again, and if it wasn't for your post, i wouldnt have remembered him. i'm saying again, it doesnt mean she doesnt love you, she may be going through a confusing phase, she may be just curious if he would find her attractive again etc etc. it's not cheating if she feels sorry about what she did. i really think you should overcome this for your relationship because you seem to care about this girl. that is just some internet guy.

Good luck! You deserve better!