I can't get over my first love

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Well it's been 6 years since I first saw him and when I did it was an immediate attraction between us but there was one problem I was underage and he was an adult,I never knew how old he was either. I eventually developed feelings for this guy when I was 13 and we got somewhat close but I eventually found out he had wife and kids just last summer. All these years I wasted on waiting to be with him when I was old enough broke my heart. Even till this day I still have feelings for him, is this normal?

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    9 years ago

    I've written this before on IIN but I feel it's the best explination for something like this. It's very sentimental and sappy which isn't like me but I read it once and it struck a chord.

    Maybe your first love is the one that sticks with you because they're the only person who will ever receieve all of you, after that you learn better but most of all no matter what, a piece of you forever remains left behind in the person you loved, a piece no future lover could get, no matter what that piece holds innocence, the belief that love really can last forever, it holds friendship and pain, trial and error, that kiss you'll never forget and that day together you can never get back, it holds youth and everything you thought love would be, everything that was proven wrong.

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    • Anime8
      9 years ago

      This is one of the best pieces advice I've ever read, if not the best. So sad and so true.

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    • dom180
      9 years ago

      That is a well-observed sentiment. Naivety grants its bearer the ability to feel emotions in their purest and most intense form, without colouring them with previous experiences which might cause constraint or caution. I think a person can regain that feeling with great mental strength, but knowing the nature of heartbreak makes it difficult for a person to allow themselves to feel those feelings.

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    • Jeaneathean
      9 years ago

      Very elegantly put.

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    • green_boogers
      9 years ago

      Very nice.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    It's OK to mourn the loss of somebody like that.

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  • gummy_jr
    9 years ago

    I just got over my first love... After four years of having feeling and two years of separation. It only took three days to get over her...

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  • Pauline
    9 years ago

    I am still in love either my 1st boyfriend, I met him When I was 14yrs and he was 22yrs. Just like you he had someone else too but we still became close. He was the first male to have sex with me who wasn't related to me. I will have sex with him anytime if he only ask me too my pussy will welcome his cock anytime.

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  • Johnnytherat
    9 years ago

    What is love!?
    Oh baby, don't hurt me
    Don't hurt me no more
    Oh, baby don't hurt me
    Don't hurt me no more

    What is love?
    Yeah

    Oh, I don't know why you're not there
    I give you my love, but you don't care
    So what is right and what is wrong
    Gimme a sign!

    What is love!?
    Oh baby, don't hurt me
    Don't hurt me no more
    What is love
    Oh baby, don't hurt me
    Don't hurt me no more

    Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh!
    Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh!

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  • pleasedtomeetyou
    9 years ago

    Soo he didn't even know you/ you didn't even know him and you think that's love? My oh my you are too young to be on here.

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  • blackraith272
    9 years ago

    i know how you feel, i sit awake almost every night 7 years after she left the state. and never though i called her every week or so for a couple of months, she never picked up... i know that it was her # 'cause the voice mail was her voice and it was always changing, so it hurt. the girl i knew since 3'rd grade. loved since 8'th and lost in 12'th. my heart still is turning in my chest as i write this.

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    I know a male friend who after TWO years still misses his ex. They were together for maybe 6-8 months and the reason why he can't get over her is because he constantly feeds his love with the good memories they had and he hopes that they can re-join.

    Basically when you get single you have to GET OVER IT. It's fine to cry and be sad for the first weeks/months but after that you really got to get a grip of yourself.

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  • Jeaneathean
    9 years ago

    ......but you need to move on. He will never be available to you.

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