I can't forgive my parents?!

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I have a history of child abuse and neglect. Though I am a proud survivor now, I am still suffering from PTSD which I struggle to overcome.
But now, all I feel towards my parents is simply immense, extreme hatred. I can't feel anything more, no love, nothing. I cannot forgive them, in the past, they have torn me apart, left me wounded, dying. They have emotionally abandoned me, beat me up black and blue, and so on...My feelings are affecting my relationship with my family. Is it normal to be not able to forgive one's parents though the abuse have long passed?

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Do you still live with them? Honestly I would not forgive them. I would forget them. Move away and never speak to them again. Don't let that shit hold you back. Make yourself someone to be proud of.

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  • Sailor_Cosmos
    11 years ago

    Of course this is a normal reaction to such abuse. I would never speak to my parents again if I were in your shoes. But if you want to salvage some kind of relationship with them seek family therapy and also see a psychotherapist to work out your own personal demons as well.

    Good luck!

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    Yes, it's normal. In fact to some extent I can relate to you. If you're still living with them I would suggest moving away from them, that is if you can. It would be better for you to get away from that negativity.

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  • Isabella80s
    11 years ago

    I'm sorry you've had to go through this. You sound like a switched on person who isn't going to let it completely ruin their life - good on you. Stay strong and maybe see a therapist about these feelings. You have every right to feel like this towards your parents. Now it's about you and recovering from your PTSD. And perhaps about rekindling a relationship of sorts with them, but that's up to you. Talk... don't suffer in silence.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    show em who's boss and be good at everything you do , those morons cant ruin your life , not you , cause you're special , stuff that !! so mad right now go near a station and wait for the strain , and yell and scream at them when the train passes , no one will hear you , hahaha look funny for the passengers tho :

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