I can't find a reason to live...

Sometimes I feel similar to this. It's not like you can just "Drop it and start over". And it just feels like you have NOTHING to achieve in life when your in this type of situation. And you feel that you can't tell anybody, or they'll send you somewhere. And to the many comments that say something like "Oh, every bad day is followed by a good day" - NO. It doesn't quite work that way. What helped me was a friend who was also in this position. She told me that if I stop sitting around all depressed and did something about what was happening around me, then things would change. It didn't work in an amazing amount of time, but after a while things began to clear up. I'm not sure if this would work for other people, but it helped me.

Meditate.
I know it sounds stupid, but trust me, getting time alone to refresh your thoughts is amazingly great. Go somewhere undistirbed, listen to soft relaxing music that doesnt speak anything you can understand, or nothing at all.
You will enter your mind to find what you're looking for. Sounds to me like you need someone close to help you go through life. Relax and think of how you will find this person. I want to help you :)
Find your dreams and what you want to achieve, where you want to be right now. Wright all this down, and forget your problems. Just enter a world of your happiness. Would you want to make love under the stars half-way across the world? Do you want to fly across the ocean in somebodies arms? Do you want to experience everything without having any guilt or worries? I know that's what we all want. Try to get there like all of us do.
Hope this helps. I love you! Be happy! And what hobby have you found?

Think about what you want to achieve in life. I am sure you have always had a big dream or goal you wanted to achieve. I know mine has been to go to medical school and become a doctor since I was a little kid. Think about a dream you want to accomplish and go for it. also, Think about all the hard time you are having right now a challenge that will make you stronger. That which doesn't kill us only makes us stronger.

Suicide isn't the coward's way out, that's just what people say to discourage others from committing suicide. In most cultures, suicide is considered an act of great courage and honor.

But, you probably shouldn't do yourself in for the reasons stated because other people have the same problems. Also, no matter how bad off you think you are, look around, you can always find someone worse off than you are.

yeah, i really agree.. sucide isn't coward at all. they who say it coward is the coward it self, it just because they not dare to sucide it self. just do what u think it's right to do, come back to think something u like, and start to don't look on anyone. just focus to make your self happy. u just need a little touch.

I wouldn't do xerxes said unless its really serious. Thats just running away from your problems and that doesn't solve anything.

Do like I did once Leave every thing behind and Start over some where else. some where far and don't tell any one where you go just leave.

askmeforhelpnow:
you seem to be really stressed and really depressed.
1. you have to think good! it always helps! I understand that it might be really hard now b cuz you have family problems and friendship problems. but you have to think good... you are actually not that unlucky as you think! there are so many ppl in the world that suffer from worse problems.. SOO my advice think good
2. talk to your mom and dad.. explain them the situation. tell them how you feel about this! i am sure they will care about your opinion! they are ur family! :) they are with you all the time. (maybe you dont even realize it) but they are !
3. call some friends over, or talk to them online! i am sure it will make you come closer..
hope this helps!
from: askmeforhelpnow

Congragulations! Your Depressed! See a Phyciatrist near you!

I was in the same condition, until I found Jesus. You need God.

You should become happy: you're in charge of your own happiness. Do things that will lead to a new and happy life. You can do it. This is normal, almost everybody will or has felt this way.

Thanks all for the posts. Those who say that they're in the same boat as me, I understand. I've just decided that I'm going to keep living each day with a new view. I'll look for things that make me happy, and stay away from things that don't. Kind of like FatherFox said above. As for the "suicide" comments, I agree. In some cultures, suicide (sacrifice) is an incredible honor. However, I am not planning on sacrificing myself, so my own suicide would be rather pointless. I've never run from a problem before, and I don't want to start with the end, you know? Thanks everyone

-The author

Most people who survive a serious suicide attempt regret it immediately. I watched an article on a guy who threw himself of the Golden Gate bridge, as soon as he jumped he saw everything in a different light, and tried to grab onto the bridge, but it was too late.

He survived his injuries, and said he immediately just wanted to live, the instant it became too late, it gave him real focus, it snapped him back to a realistic perspective.

When I've been really down, it's always improved, and often the best thing is to question your perspective. Are they really that bad? And don't just say no, really ask yourself, what is really so bad?

We choose to feel like sh*t, whatever our circumstances. Have a go at trying to change how you FEEL about all this, by changing how you interpret your situation.

It works, but you gotta work at it.

your lucky you have a family my mom died when i was 4 my dad died when i was 6, my brother raised me (he was 12 and i was 6) and left me when he turned 18 and i turned 12, he bought me this reallllllly old dude who was a maid and 'acted like a father' but now im 27 and i got a gf got my own crib and im pretty well off (got a new porsche yesterday)

I am in pretty much your same shoes right now... I recently lost everything.. my partner of 8 years, my job, my house, my family, my friends... everything. And I am stuck living somewhere that I hate.. I have nothing left to live for and I feel like I am just sitting here waiting to die. "My life is at a dead end" describes how I feel exactly... but I don't want to commit suicide, I don't think I would ever do that. I just don't know what to do and I don't really know if I care enough to even want to do something. Everyday I dread getting up in the morning because it's just facing another useless pointless day.. So I guess really all I wanted to say is yea.. I think it's normal and also that... you're not alone. You're really not. I don't have any answers, I don't even have anything epic to say.. I don't really know what to do except continue living and hoping that one day I will find that reason to live... whatever it is...

Well, it sounds to me like you have fair cause to be depressed.

Dont want to go all evangelical on you, but look into something that can connect you to some "higher" or "deeper" meaning in life beyond your temporary problems.

Something that can connect you with your good heart even while bad things are happening, that way you will always have some light to balance out the dark.

Live for today. If you wanna run around the street naked with a can of beer and a big old bifta in your claws do it. There doesn't have to be a light. There are ways to make your life happier, not always better, just happier. You don't need a light. You have a life. Make of it what you will. Don't wallow in self pity and hate, go out, walk, join a golf club or just generally do something you wouldn't normally do.

My family fell apart when I was younger. I got into crime, violence, alcohol and hard drugs. I self harmed a lot during my time but I've come out the other end strong as an ox. Purely by living for today. I have the scars to prove my journey and when I look at them I think back to all the bad things that happened and then think of what I have now, my family back, a place in college, an exceptional group of friends that hold me up. Getting out and living for today is, in my opinion, the single most effective way of getting out the gutter.

This song influenced me to get my life on track.

(It's sang by a man btw so I won't grow a beard and no one's going to mother my children ;])

"One day when I'm older I will settle down
I'll buy a house in the Lake District a few miles out of town
I'll grow a beard and get myself a smoking pipe
I'll stop taking these drugs and go to sleep at night
I paint a pretty picture inside my head
And I'll think about the person who would share my bed
The mother of my children my one true love
Oh the picture starts to disappear and it all gets f***ed up
Because today is the tomorrow we thought about yesterday
And tryna plan the future is an awful way to spend a day
You can't describe magic using words..."

well my suggestion is to put more of your energy into something that you love to do, and i dont mean something that others can control the outcome of like gambling or dating. When i get down, i resort to writing. I have a passion for writing and its a huge release. So find a passion and change things up a little. Sometimes change is all u need :)
hope u feel better soon. hug.

Try moveing away to a different state, city, or town.
Get a fresh start on things...it might help

Well obviously you have'nt lost all hope because you came here. So my suggestion would be to just tell people how you feel. Notin a screaming angry way but just tell people whats going on. Either that or go to therapy.

Thank you all for your support. I've recently found a new hobby thats been keeping me busy. I'm still a little down, but things are starting to look better. Again, thank you.

dont commit suicide! you only live once.

Really - talk to your family Dr. & look at some counseling, if you haven't. It does help & depression is treatable.

The words of encouragement about coping with life circumstances are good here. Keep making the best decisions you can, including the decision to keep dealing with these problems.

Worship God, the only one. it will change your life.

Your probably catholic

JUst remember that every good day is followed by a bad day.. goodluk and dont think negative.. we all get those times.. sumtimes it becomes too much but then b4 u know it.. sumthing exciting will happen in ur life and ur wories wil vanish..:) cheer up

You know what, Life is always full of hard times and when hard times hit think of how lucky you are.

Go and volunteer and help people less fortunate than you, this should give you some perspective on life.

Life is full of ups and downs it will get beeter somehow some way. Im glad to see you not thinking of killing yourself it is the cowards way out which means if you think like that it will definately get better for you one day