I can't dance with ppl around!!

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It sounds like it's not a big deal and you're probably going to tell me to "Get Over It" But, it's serious.. at least to me :(

I like dancing and I love when the DJ is too loud that you can feel the music in your veins .. But, I don't know what happens to me when I start dancing when there's a crowd.. I feel like everyone will be watching me.. Though they end up watching me cause I seem odd.. just standing still trying to move my body along with the music..

I also hate when there's a few people on the stage .. I would never dare to be one of them.. cause I think I have to be perfect at it :(

I wish I can dance in parties.. instead of dancing in my room

any advice? :/

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    It's normal. Maybe, you should try taking some private dance lessons? They might give you a confidence boost:)

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  • PolyVinylC
    11 years ago

    I don't like dancing with ppl around either,partly a guy thing and a self confidence thing,even though I am probably older than most people on this site.I should take my own advice really and not care what other ppl think.What I do like to do at home alone though is find the song "shake" by sam cooke on you tube, then shake my body violently! That is how I dance,but not with people around!

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    I can't even dance with no one around. :(

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  • saddeningalien
    11 years ago

    Same thing here.

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  • Lia
    13 years ago

    Just PRETEND that you know what you're doing and PRETEND that you're really confident (even if you're actually not). If you're really enjoying yourself, that's the important thing :)

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  • lifeismagic
    13 years ago

    This is a lack of self confidence unfortunatly. When you have total self confidence then this will not be a problem :)

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    • 4w04se
      13 years ago

      Still, thanks for your comment. I am sure self-confidence plays a role.

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    • 4w04se
      13 years ago

      @ lifeismagic

      Actually, I just realized that it's happening because I am too self-conscious. I care about stuff that people won't normally notice, cause simply everyone is stuck in his own world. Everyone only gives greater attention to what they're doing and not what others are doing.

      Maybe many of us are self-conscious too. But, knowing the fact that people don't really mind what you do, is very revealing! I am a bit different now about seeing/doing things. I might be less self-conscious but, it is still good to watch what you're doing, just to make sure you won't hurt others by doing it.

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  • vintagebeauty224
    13 years ago

    I HAVE THE EXACT SAME ISSUE!! lol and i hate it!! it drives me crazy watching all my friends and family laughing and dancing while im just standing there stiff as a board, i dont get it and i get so angry at myself when the party ends i feel like i just missed out on part of life. i always dance in the mirrors when im home alone but just cant do it around others im not sure but i think it has something to do with social fears/phobias google it and it will tell you more about the symptoms and whatnot. good news is there is medications and treatments so we dont always have to be like this. im not sure if i have it, but i do have alot of the symptoms, and im not saying that you have it to, but it is something to check out:]

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I used to feel the same tbh, but I thought come on, who cares! Let your hair down, go nuts! I did so and no one was glaring at me or anything. Also, no one is perfect at dancing imo :)
    We all suck, that's the fun of it ;)

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