I can't believe i am posting this....

too long. shut up.

The price for success in school is loneliness.

If you want to "make" a girl like you, you won't. Be honest with yourself and the people you want to date. The better you understand yourself, the better your romantic life will go. The best way to learn to talk with girls is by actually talking with them. Make some girl friends and go from there.

Be yourself. If you're a nice guy, then so be it... Better being honest than trying to live a lie!
Eventually the right girl will fall in your lap. Sounds weird but it's true.
I used to be a bit of a rebel in school (drugs, fights, cops, expulsion, etc) & have since matured to a rather calm, quiet person & I must admit a lot of girls do prefer the "bad boys" but seriously if that's not you, then the girls attracted to "bad boys" are probably not for you either...
Normally gorgeous but bitchy or some other fault.

your over thinking it man, all you have to do is wait. you'll know when it happens. trust me

Haha I didn't even read the full post, i just read.. First off I'm straight lols! And thought.. Well there is your answer.. You're gay :)

It is normal but the harder you try to get a girl the less chance you have if you are talking to a girl you like that does not know you
give her the impression you are taken and flirt with her joke and make her smile girls seem to like bad boys and they always want wot they think they can't have eg you this worked for me my prob was I was 23 before I tryed it lol

That was the longest story ever- couldn't be bothered reading it. I switched off after 2nd sentence

Right there with ya!

i promise you, you will definitly find someone. keep up your cuteness!!!

Depends what crowd, you get some really stupid types that like to date the bad boys. But yeah, I was overshadowed by a pathetic loser who looked inbred and was a complete layabout. Same case with my neighbour's daughter who's seeing this sponge who's nine years her senior, I'm expecting a backstab.

My answer is look for someone level headed and sensible, and most importantly, someone who is dependable.

i have to say theirs nothing wrong with a fetish although i don't think you should give people bad advise (because the confession is for helping and all that stuff) but other wise its ok.

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dude im also 18 and haven't even ben kissed but i try not to let it bother me i figured it out you gotta go into life situations with a positive outlook the next time you meet a girl dont let yourself be nervous and if you are question your emotions ask yourself why you feel a certain way and try to resolve those emotions im still working on mine but im coming along and you will too dont worry about things insted embrace them. it might be hard but you can do it i know it just takes a lil patience and effort and you can do it.

There must have been opportunities that you let pass way by you in high school - other than the unlikely hope that some girl would approach you at your locker. Dances? Clubs? Parties? Events? Home room? School work? Projects? Friends?

So be & stay close to where the social action is - a girl isn't like a trout to be hooked in some remote part of the stream.

When you have been around girls have any flirted with you or given off, you know: a spark, or signals of any kind of relationship interest (doesn't have to be romantic)? Have you initiated anything?

So many sit like lumps expecting that things just "happen." Not so - there's always lots happening, and you have to tune in and turn it on. If you lack social skills and confidence - if you are just a stick in the mud - you're dead at this point. Although maybe some persistent person will find their way in the darkness to you. So far that doesn't seem to be working though.

Follow up. Once you've initiated or responded to some sign of interest don't just disappear. Pursue it. Say something appropriate to the situation/person. You are starting a conversation, getting to know her & letting her get to know you a bit. If you are a nice guy, you've got it made because women like nice guys. (OK - except the one's who fall for the bad boy archetype, - & these aren't the one's you want).

So don't be passive and look for a recipe and some big strategy. If there is someone you like, smile and say hello. Strike up a conversation. Show her you are interested and a respectful person. You'll get a clue if its mutual. If not move on. Its all about the small & nuanced social behaviour that start up relationships. Its not about looking or begging for relationships that don't exist yet.

I would have to say just Be Yourself. Confidence is the key. You dont want to do what others do to get girlfriends becaue you just might attract the wrong girl. Be Yourself, Be Confident in who you are. Looking good cant hurt and dont go out look for a "relationship" per say but just try to become friends with girls and maybe one special friendship will blossom into a relationship. Do not act desperate...Go with the flow...lol and with all that said just PRay on it Ask the Lord to send you someone that will be perfect for you. In the mean time keep working on yourself Be cofident and get ur "Swag on" lol

I find it amusing that men think they "have to get" girls, like its some sort of mysterious and elusive prey that must be studied, stalked and then pounced on at just the right moment. There is no exact way to "get" a girl. This will prolly blow most mens minds but girls arent some weird alien species, they are human. We are more similar to you than you realize. there are plenty of girls that are shy and feel socially awkward. we have insecurities and personal hang ups just like men. Here is my advice, join a club or group that is involved with something you are interested in and be friendly. It should be easier to start friendships because you already know that you have a common intrest, you can start up conversations based on this interest. i personally think its best to let a girl you are interested in more than just friendship towards the begining so that if she isnt interested in you that way you dont waste too much of your time. be prepared to be rejected on occassion, youll have to be brave and face the chance of rejection if you ever want to get past the friendship stage. be yourself and be intrested in her. be honest but dont tell her your whole life story right from the get go. dont play games unless you want them to play games and most importantly dont settle on the not quite right girl just because you are lonely.

It's a terribly chichéd answer, but just be yourself. That's really all you can do.
Do you have many female friends? If not then maybe that would be a good place to start. I don't mean that you should befriend girls with the intention of trying to hook up with them, but maybe the reason you feel awkward is that you're not used to hanging out with the opposite sex. College is a great new beginning. You can leave all your awkward teen memories behind and start anew. Just try to be yourself and be sociable with people in your new classes and I'm sure you'll be fine.
If all that fails, drunk girls are pretty easy.

Hey man ,

I know what you mean, but honestly just try not to become friends with them right away...once they have that thought of you in their minds you cant change it.

Good Luck

Try to become independent. Girls like a man who can take care of himself and her but also lets her sneak some advice in without being beaten down for it.

Sometimes, you need to take chances in life, you see an opportunity, go for it. It's your fault you were in the friend zone, take a chance.

It'll happen when it happens. You can't go looking for love, love finds you. Doesn't really matter anyhow brother. Finish school and make tons of money for yourself.

Like a lot of other people have said..be yourself and for your questions, you shouldnt have to TRY really hard to get a girl..you just need to let a relationship happen.

P.S. good luck!! :]

It sounds to me as if you are just a little unsure of yourself. You lack confidence. I had the same problem when I was in school. It all turned around for me in one night! I was 21 and decided to hit my first bar all alone. By the end of the night I had been hit on half a dozen times. I felt great and I no longer felt insecure. Just wait it will happen to you when You least expect it!

be yourself. get to know someone and go in for a kiss. Give her a call let her know you are interested in what she is interested in. Let her know that she is special, be kind and thoughtful, but not always available. Someone who has their own life is mcuh more intersting than someone who has glommed on to yours. Make her laugh and openly flirt with her. If she is interested she will reciprecate.

take male enhance ment it'll get u any girl it worked for a frind of mine

aww thats cute jay i think ur a really nice guy
nn if it helps id date you lol
but anyway just be yourself x

A lot of it is just about being comfortable around women. Just try and meet and date as many as you can. don't try and put pressure on yourself that every girl you meet has to think your a great guy cause you want her to be your girlfriend. that just makes you act nervous and you if are nervous around someone it makes them nervous as well.

Any girl would be lucky to have you, just be yourself, and she will come.

Yea i had the ame problem in high school in a way, i was always the nice gauy. I always tryed to become there friend and then try to get into the more than friend, this didnt ever fucking work i was shafted into that horrible fucking friend zone so many times!!!!!! For me i just found some friends that brought me out of my shell. Im not in school any more so my main soicalization is work. Just find a girl just say hi and work your way up to convorations and so on and dont be a little bitch and suck it up do be scared of rejection it happens to everone.

just be your self and start chatting with a bunch of girls

I suggest you just go about your business as usual and you will definately meet a girl in college probably when you least expect to or at least get laid at one of those frat parties. You do not need to get a piercing or a tattoo to get a girl unless you want to get fish scales tattood on your dick for girls that dont eat meat on Good Fridays

yea if your too nice, it's hard to get a girl

i pretty much hate my mom because she treated me like a little kid and tried to make me be "nice". and she's basically a huge loser with no friends and made me go along with her 99%% of the time when i wasn't in school, to make me her friend, maybe that's why i feel like killing people now

my advice, get a piercing and a tattoo, maybe that will attract a girl

and i would make a move pretty quick on a girl otherwise you will enter the "friend zone"

there is a name for nice guys it's called "average frustrated chump" or AFC, i also suggest reading the book "the mystery method" or "the game"

I don't think you need to do anything specific to make a girl be attracted to you. The first thing a girl is going to look at is what you look like, and if she likes your looks, then she is going to see how big that manly bulge is between your legs, Just kidding. Your best bet is to be yourself don't try and be phony.

It sounds like you will be off to college soon, and I know you will meet your fair share of "gorgeous" women. When you find one you are really attracted to just simply ask her out be yourself and see what happens.

You will eventually meet somebody that you "click" with and in the meantime happy hunting!

I have learned that things happen naturally so just go with the flow and sooner or later you will be in a relationship with a nice girl.