I can’t keep a boyfriend

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I have posted about this before but I want some different answers before it was about him messaging.
This time I don’t know if he’s interested or not?
We went on 3 brilliant dates, the last date was nice he put his hand on my leg and I didn’t do anything. Because of my anxiety. And now I feel like I’ve messed up.... he did text me all week though but it isn’t until later at night but he asks how my day has been?

He’s always been terrible at messaging but I just feel if he was interested he’d be there in a morning and as much as he could like I am.
Idk if I should message first or how much if he stops? I don’t want to be too much but I want him to know I’m keen.
On Thursday I asked him what he was doing at the weekend, he said a few things I said if your plans get cancelled let me know if you fancy doing something.
He replied we could go for a walk it would be nice to have a couple of days chill... to me it screamed I’m not interested.... and that’s my anxiety I think?
Anyway he stopped messaging and I didn’t message friday I thought oh he’s not going to message again. At 9pm he messaged saying a few things then asked how my day had been?

He seems genuine and he works a 6am til 7pm manual job and travels a lot.
But I don’t know I’m not being forward myself and I don’t know why. It’s lile because I feel he’s not interested I don’t want to show over interest.

But he and I ended up working on Saturday.

So do I ask again for this week? Or do I wait ?
Do we have to meet every weekend? How often should I message?
How much is too much?

I don’t want to be a pest. But the thing is I’m lonely when I start dating they’re all I have. I don’t have many friends and they all have there own life and I have no one else to message so it’s like he’s all I’m thinking of.

Is it to early to be forward? Tips please!

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    It's sexy for me when a girl texts all the time and is so stressed/anxious about dating or a relationship. I was also very stressed in my life and I am attracted to mentally damaged women. It makes it more interesting and I feel a deep connection and the need to permanently check her texts and to comfort her. However, most men aren't into it, which is probably why you can't keep a boyfriend. I think you should just give it a try with a mentally damaged man as well. Might be worth a shot.

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  • TheOishome
    5 years ago

    Ok you are overthinking to the max it's slightly amusing really I have a friend who over thinks and it's crazy how obvious things are hidden from people who overthink. He said he wanted to meet up for a walk or a couple chill days, he would not say this if he wasn't into you. You can accept that as truth or you can work yourself into a frenzy. If you have anxiety you think irrationally about things like this therefore from an outsider's perspective he's literally definitely into you. Try to relax and enjoy the dates you go on let whatever happens happen, don't try to impress him or be distant so you don't appear needy be genuine and enjoy his company as much as you can he'll gravitate towards your genuine character and become even more into you goodluck <3

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      He hasn’t messaged at all today.... I should’ve put my hand on his hand last time I saw him im such an idiot.

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  • Hardinawetdiaper
    5 years ago

    You can message me any time 🙄

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  • TerriAngel
    5 years ago

    If I had an answer Id give it.
    Im here, youre there.
    In this case I have no way of telling you what you should do.
    Put the cards on the table.
    If he isnt into you, move on.
    He bustin long ass hours though.

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