I broke up with the woman i love iin

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About 2 months ago I broke off my year long relationship with the woman I love. I loved her then and still do now, but we were incompatible, we had very different personalities, being around her emotionally drained me, due to her numerous quirks, issue, and tendency to appear angry over anything, and our lives were headed in different directions.

Logically I know I made the right decision, I've never believed that love conquers all, I know someday I'll love another, and I've always thought that people who'd sacrifice the future they wanted for a lover were idiots.

But I'm still in love with her, we still hangout fairly regularly, and I miss her but I'm afraid if I try to start the relationship back up again, it will break me.

Is all this normal?

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  • BlackyHancock
    8 years ago

    If you want to get over her you can't keep hanging out, at least not while you are still emotionally vulnerable.
    It's best to cut off all contact.

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  • Another_Account
    8 years ago

    You sound like you have a very wise head on your shoulders. A great many people, mostly women, think romance should proceed how it does in the movies or romantic novels. Real life isn't like that. AT ALL. People who sacrifice their own future and their own goals on the idea that "love conquers all" are in fact idiots. What they really are is either deluded by those same movies or romantic novels OR personality wise so weak they cant function without keeping up with the stereotype of "having to be in a relationship".

    I clicked on this story because I had a very similar situation sort of recently in my life, I definitely loved the girl but I just could not get past her quirks. So I had to think long and hard if I really loved her or if I loved the idea of what she could be in my head.

    The best advice I can offer is either jump in again with both feet for a relationship and see if you can salvage it OR walk away completely. You cant do this sort of friends/sort of lovers thing. Its not healthy and in the long run it will end up costing you your emotional well being.

    Anybody who tells you they don't see a problem with just "hanging out" is giving you terrible advice and is immature themselves.

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  • joshmatt
    8 years ago

    http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-Vn0iSVwwYNQ/T0AHhg1OoRI/AAAAAAAAB1Y/FmmE8VRnK7k/s1600/yao-ming-face-bitch-please-fuck-that-mem-oryginal.png

    whatever you do mate, don't wobble. and if you do, don't torture yourself

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  • shuttuppnerddplz
    8 years ago

    Don't hesitate to be hurt, be you and just love her. Without pain, you wouldn't know how to maintain and fix your relationship. There's no perfect thing in this world, we are all just trying to be perfect you know;)

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago

      One person can't "fix" a relationship, what a stupid idea

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