I broke up with the woman i love and regret it?

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I have a history of mental health problems. Broke up with her because I was going through the crappiest year of my life. I didn't want to hurt her while I went through it because I could tell I was becoming increasingly angered easily.

I broke up she was devastated..i ignored her..now I am on meds for a few months now really freaking miss her. I haven't tried to reach out yet because I'm terrified she's forgotten about me and I don't know if I'll get ill again. I don't want to hurt her.

I love you Rachel. I never stopped. When I was so gone I was too focused on my job and doing things to distract myself. I slept with another woman and after I cried. I cried because I thought of you and how ashamed I was, I regret it all. I love you Rachel so much you are my world sweet heart.

Is it normal to regret this?

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Based on 14 votes (9 yes)
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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    You didn't choose to have a mental health crisis, and it seems your motives for breaking up with Rachel were positive - you didn't trust yourself, and you didn't want to hurt her.

    I don't think you should feel guilty or ashamed, but feeling regret about what happened is normal, particularly if your head is now in a slightly better place.

    Does Rachel know why you split with her? If not, perhaps you should let her know. It's possible that will make her feel better about herself, as well as let you feel less guilty and reach some sort of closure. Given that you say she was "devastated" by the break-up and it sounds like it wasn't that long ago, I really doubt if she's forgotten about you.

    Given the history, it's probably unwise to hope that you and she will get back together. I don't think you should contact her with that wish in mind, but rather just attempt to reach some sort of resolution in something that's clearly bothering you a lot.

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    Yeah, this is completely normal and I think you should reach out to her.

    Either way, atleast you'll know.

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  • those3simplewords
    5 years ago

    no because you don't cheat if love someone, period.

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    • IrishPotato
      5 years ago

      Did you even read the full thing? They broke up. It wasn't cheating.

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      • perfectxsilence
        5 years ago

        Lol some people don't read.

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  • isitnotmal
    5 years ago

    Wish my ex said these things. Why can't more people be like you?

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