I broke the law to be a good sister and don't regret it, iin?

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My sister and I are extremely close. Our parents died when I was very young (7) and my sister was 3. Basically after this point we were all the other had, and I did and will do anything for my sister, she is my life. I can't stress enough how important she is to me.

When I was 17 my sister got adopted to an American family. I was not picked up being that I was older. We lived in Thailand at the time so this was devastating to me. I was working for a fashion magazine at the time and basically I lost it.

I stole a bunch of money from the company to buy a ticket to America and to get a cheap apartment near my sister. A year later I was to be extradited back to Thailand but my godmother helped me get asylum in Denmark and paid back what I stole.

I feel bad that she had to do all that and I want to work to pay her back, but recently I had a group of friends sort of "gang up" on me when we spoke about it, not so much because of what I did but because I don't feel guilty.

I do not regret my decision and I would do it again a thousand times. I know it's "wrong" but I learned to do anything it takes to take care of those you love. They seemed to think I was like, a bad person without morals for saying yes I did it, no I don't feel bad, and yes I would do it again.

I still feel this way, but I'm bothered to be judged for this. I don't feel they really understand what it's like. Am I crazy for thinking this way? Am I wrong for saying I would always do anything it takes for my sister? I don't think I am but I am having doubts with all these accusations. Am I at all normal?

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  • MissyLeyneous
    11 years ago

    You obviously must feel a little bit of guilt, or you wouldn't have asked. This is a good thing, I think.

    I'm the eldest of four sisters, and I'd DIE for any one of them, so yes, this is very normal to me. ^_^

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  • MsWVgal
    11 years ago

    I don't think anyone would question your motivation. Things like that are very hard, and its difficult for people who haven't experienced it to understand. I think, more than anything, your friends are probably thinking of other ways for you to get the money legally, because everyone gets a little sqeamish over theft. They'll go through every scenario in which, in their minds, they could achieve the same end result through different methods. I think if you had those options, you would have taken them. But disagreeing with your methods isn't synonymous with disagreeing with your decision.

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    They're just a bunch of goody-goody sissies. Do what you got to do. Just don't hurt people.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    The fact that you want to work to pay your grandmother back makes this alright in my mind. I would do absolutely anything, and I mean ANYTHING for my brother, including what you did.

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  • davesumba
    11 years ago

    you are no different than the democrats in America, taking money from the people who don't absolutely need all of it and giving it to the poor people, which 51% of people are okay with, so i'd say don't worry too much about it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Put it in the past. Move on

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Your need and love for your sister and loyalty to her is admirable. But that too is blinding you to rash and desperate acts and any remorse for doing what you know was wrong.

    In addition, it seems to be blinding you to the fact that it is also self defeating. You will certainly not be closer to reuniting with her if you are in jail.

    Forget your bleeding heart and use your bleeding head. Keep up contact, be patient and make a rational plan to reunite with her.

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    • LilyAmongTheThorns
      11 years ago

      I don't think you understood the story and its time frame. This is part of my past, please re-read.

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      • Mando
        11 years ago

        I did read it. You were deported and had your godmother not intervened could have been arrested when landing in Thailand.

        While it is understandable how you feel for sister, people may be worried more about your judgement in having done this (in the past), it being a bad idea, and whether you'd learned anything because you still say you'd do anything for her.

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        • LilyAmongTheThorns
          11 years ago

          Oh, it just seemed like you were referring to the present tense ("Keep up contact, be patient and make a rational plan to reunite with her") since I have been reunited. If something similar were to happen again I don't think I am in the same situation where I would feel I need to resort to such desperate measures.

          I hope, at least. More what I meant is that I don't regret my decision. It's in the past, and it put me with my sister. I don't think stealing is "ok" but I don't feel guilty about what I did 5 years ago. I don't see much point to being stuck in the past and in the future I don't plan specifically on stealing money, but I will always do everything I can to be with my sister.

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          • Mando
            11 years ago

            That you are now reunited is an important detail. Your trail left you in Denmark in the story, not reunited, though having met. So no I don't think there is any reason to regret nor is it anyone else's business.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    You're an idiot and what a fucking childish thing to do. Boo hoo, I miss my sister, let's steal a whole bunch of money so I can be happy. That wasn't about her, it was all about you, you wanted to go there, you stole the money and acted a moron. Everybody has problems in life, and everybody deals with them. Stealing other peoples hard earned money is not how you solve problems, it's how you create them. Bitches be crazy.

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    • LilyAmongTheThorns
      11 years ago

      You have a lot of anger that I suspect may be not entirely because of my story.

      Whatever happened to you regarding your money isn't my business, but using me as a scapegoat isn't going to make that problem disappear.

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      • squeallikeasacofpigs
        11 years ago

        You stupid bitch, I have no money problems in my life, you do, you're the one that had to STEAL to pay for a fucking plane ticket. You're not a scapegoat, stop dramatising you dumb cunt.

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        • LilyAmongTheThorns
          11 years ago

          Your reaction is too extreme to come just from me and my story. Deny it all you want, because YOU know the truth. You don't need me to tell it to you.

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          • Bubbles-for-life
            11 years ago

            Tell that dude to calm his dick ▲▲

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          • Maggles
            11 years ago

            Damn, he is a big fuckin bully. Shit he must hate women,too. He's probably a drug dealer and of course has NO money problems....

            Your story was exotic and amazing. Sounded like a movie. I'm jealous I'm just A regular American bitch. American dudes LOVE exotic bitches. And I say 'bitch' cuz I don't know ALL your names individually!! Ok, Katt Williams says that last part.

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  • ALEXZ99
    11 years ago

    You are normal,pls b safe my brother,may god be with u.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    yeah your normal i'd do anything for my sister

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Im sure I would have too

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    I will not judge you for this. Don't be too harsh on yourself.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    the money has been paid back, now start fresh, you will have to work harder because of the crime, your reputation has been tarnished so that is why you have to work harder to prove yourself, do not steal again its not worth it at all, plus its immoral

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    if i was you i would say thank you or else sorry.
    someone paid off a debt (you should never of had because you never asked to borrow and should of being in jail not on a flight to the USA) i guess a sorry to the person you stole from and thank u (and full pay back) to the person who paid the money back. if you missed your sister when you turned 18 you could of applied to look after your sister legally and not steal money.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    What if stealing that money meant someone's family didn't eat that week or someone lost their job and couldn't support their sister or brother or kids?

    Someone's family suffered then for the sake of yours.

    You're not wrong for wanting to protect your family, but just because I want to save my dog from being yelled at by the neighbor doesn't mean I have to strangle the guy.

    There are alternative routes, just as there is more than one way into a city.

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    • LilyAmongTheThorns
      11 years ago

      I agree that there are other methods I could have taken, but at the time I was 17 and in a panic that I lost my only family member, separated by an ocean.

      I don't believe that anyone at the company suffered a dock in their pay. This is speculation, but a company that pulls in several hundred million a year would more likely take a $1800 loss to their profits rather than to the employees.

      Of course that may just be attempted justification. I don't feel stealing is "right" but to me, at the time, in the situation, it was a necessary evil.

      Also I would never strangle anybody! I'm not trying to directly harm anyone unless it's my last resort to save a life, and even then the goal would be incapacitation not death.

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  • 100coolguy
    11 years ago

    how much

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  • flowergirl87
    11 years ago

    Maybe you should have a chat with your friends and say that you understand what you did wasn't ideal, but ask them to (at least try!) and see it more from your perspective. If they're true friends they will be empathetic and perhaps reconsider how they reacted. Of course they'll still have their opinions. But may gain more of an understanding as to how difficult it has been for you so that the scales kind of balance out, if you see what I mean? Often we can't truly understand what it's been like for another person BUT I do believe empathy is within the reach of most - and it can go a long way.

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  • flowergirl87
    11 years ago

    Sounds like you've had a hard time of it and I think your reaction was fairly normal. Not very morally sound but did it really hurt anyone/did anyone go hungry because you stole that money? Probably not. You did it out of passion and it's understandable that you were heartbroken to be away from your sister. It's hard to be seperated from someone you're close to, particularly in your situation. When it comes to your friends - although it's reasonable for them to consider your actions wrong (because stealing is dishonest) I think they should be a bit more understanding and less judgemental. Have they really thought about it from your perspective...?

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    • LilyAmongTheThorns
      11 years ago

      I understand that it's not "good" to steal and I didn't want to hurt anyone. I can see where my friends are coming from but mostly I think it's really hard for them to know what its like to grow up over there, with only 1 person who is family. My sister is literally everything I have and all that I love with all my heart. Being away from her has always felt like torture.

      I don't think my friends maybe have the easiest time putting themselves "in my shoes" because it's a very different life than theirs. I'm not angry about that but I just feel bad to have them think I am messed up or a bad person because of my past.

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