I attract the wrong king of people iin?

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Frankly I'm getting motherfuckin' sick over the guys that "like" me.

First of all the main reason is APPARENTLY how "well" I can "relate" to these desperate fucks, as well as how "nice" and "caring" I am. I'm not sure if it's because I treat them as if they were my sons (because some, I do, or an older/younger brother) or whatever.

And personally....it's been more than a few guys. First off their general ages are 17-21 - and I HATE men (dating) in that age group.

Like, am I doing something wrong? Am I being too friendly with them? Because honestly I don't even want to be their friends (yes, I listen to them. Some are more annoying than others, but if they have a genuine problem my ears'll be wide open).

Uh. It must be typical how, if something's harder to get it makes the chase so much more fun, as painful and long as it may be? Yeah, well, I like guys that I guess you can say are, "hard to get". Is this normal? The guys that DO approach me (and no. It's not a fuckton. Not EVEN a shitload - just enough to drive me to post on IIN) I can't stand! Seriously!

I'm sorry if I sound mean. I do give those guys chances but they're all the same...And they're too young. 27 is the MINIMUM age I go for, preferred around 40.

And please don't tell me not to lead them on - I have never flirted before, ever. I don't even think before I act, everything's just impulsive. If they're taking it in /that/ way then that's their problem.

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  • theytookthisone
    12 years ago | pl

    Maybe youre the only attractive girl that'll give them the time of day, so they think they have a chance with you...

    Just be straight up with them, tell them they aren't your type or you only see them as a friend. Or you could just ignore them and eventually they'll get the hint(hopefully)

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    • tentacleTherapist
      12 years ago

      Thank you. Thumbs up from me.

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  • moke64916
    12 years ago

    There is something called the law of attraction. It is possible you are presenting yourself in a fashion that could possibly lead these guys on. Make it clear to everyone you are not interested in them. I bet you date men 27-40 because of maturity level. There are guys out there, very few that might be in their early 20's yet as wise as could be. I'm 22 and my best friend is 44. I date woman in their 30's. I understand kind of why you date men older. Just keep an open mind and try not to draw judgement without knowing.

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    • tentacleTherapist
      12 years ago

      That makes sense. Maturity and, I don't know, I just prefer older men. Thank you, I like this comment.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I know exactly where you're coming from!!!

    I seem to be the only person who will listen to these 'charity cases' and then they become infatuated with me until I almost get rude by saying Hi and moving on quickly. My husband calls them 'basket cases' and wonders where the next one is coming from.

    You need to get selfish and don't waste a good night out listening to someone's problems! Give them 5 minutes to either make you laugh or buy you a drink ... or move away!! That's my philosophy now!

    Good luck - and don't be tooooo nice!

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    • tentacleTherapist
      12 years ago

      LOL thank you. Nice hearing how you feel about it.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    12 years ago

    READ THIS SHIT

    I meant to write *kind*.

    How the fuck didn't I notice that?

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    • sunny_wantsome
      12 years ago

      i noticed it today only after you mentioned it

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      • tentacleTherapist
        12 years ago

        Looool.

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  • Member3285
    12 years ago

    You sound like a total bitch.

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    • tentacleTherapist
      12 years ago

      How? Explain.

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  • thecoldhardtruth
    12 years ago

    You sound way too angry for just having guys like you, it okay though, after reading this post i don't get why they would either.

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    • tentacleTherapist
      12 years ago

      Because it's so many of them that are just desperate.

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  • Blind/Astray
    11 years ago

    Me and you are going through the same exact problem reading this I can literally hear your anger. I felt almost as if I was typing this. I always tell people being single especially in our age group is rough. They have no respect, no manners, and this list goes on. I had men want to move in after 2 days of knowing them. Want to come over hours after I meet them. They dont call they just text "wyd" shit drives me crazy I cant stand it.

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  • AthenaKeene
    12 years ago

    Don't romanticlly get involved. Stay friends. And remember it costs nothing to be kind.

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  • Scarecr0w
    12 years ago

    Hi, I am 'that guy'. I'm sorry. ;_;

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    • tentacleTherapist
      12 years ago

      Oh, lol.....XD Who knows, other girls might like it...? But not me. :c Personal preference, maybe?

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  • sunny_wantsome
    12 years ago

    Do you express it to them as you have done it over here. And btw who are these guys your friend trying to be your bf and don't you have friends who are females to spend time with instead of being with these guys. What is your age? wondering is it a case of a 18 yr old gal who wants a 40 yr old.

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    • tentacleTherapist
      12 years ago

      No, I don't burst out at them at all. It just pisses me off, I can't have *more* guy friends than I already do, without them being all annoying and weird. And I love older men♥

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  • ishitpandas
    12 years ago

    Me too

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  • visualkeirockstar
    12 years ago

    Y not just ignore them?

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    • tentacleTherapist
      12 years ago

      That'd be pretty rude.

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    Ignore the guy's that you dislike and search for guy's yourself so as to attract the right guy.

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Just don't give them attention then. Simple as that. Well, if you hate them THAT much anyway.

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    • tentacleTherapist
      12 years ago

      That's not the issue. The problem is most of them have problems/issues and I love trying to help people out. It's when they think I'm coming onto them that's a problem.

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      • Energy
        12 years ago

        Well, if you want to keep helping them out you're gonna have to get used to it then.
        Otherwise, ignore em.

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        • tentacleTherapist
          12 years ago

          I guess.

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