I asked for the number of a random girl i saw in public. iin?

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Saw a woman who caught my eye eating alone at a cheap restaurant. I was really nervous, but I walked up to her and told her "Hey, sorry to bug you but I thought you were pretty and I was wondering if I could have your number" I don't usually do this sort of thing so I was really nervous. She said she had a boyfriend, oh well. I worry that I creeped her out. I'm a decent looking guy, but I'm bad at figuring out what's socially acceptable so I'm not sure.

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Crow

8 years ago

That's pretty abrupt. Don't expect many women to just hand over their contact details without knowing anything about you. You two didn't even know each others names and you want her to just hand you her number because you called her pretty?

If you want a better chance; make yourself look more attractive, make engaging smalltalk and at least look relaxed. You might have a better chance if you have a wingwoman with you.

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- charli.m
  
  8 years ago
  
  This. As usual :)
  
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  - Crow
    
    8 years ago
    
    Haha thanks, I try :)
    
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53739

8 years ago

maybe she thought you were filming a prank or social experiment and she was checking for cameras around

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ODED_OBLITERATE

8 years ago

Oded here, dude. Just go with the flow man. At least you're trying to figure stuff out. Just be wise in your decision making.

Edit: and just be yourself and don't tense up. Just be loose. Calm. Like I said, Go with it and best of luck in your encounters.

Oded....out

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KingTermite

8 years ago

Wow the charli.m crew (or sockpuppet accounts are raging). Down voting everyone that disagrees with her and upvoting everyone that does. Did someone say "ego"?

By all means feel free to downvote me into oblivion, it'll be worth it to know you had to look at this to do it. Fucking children can't play nice on the interwebz.

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mysistersshadow

8 years ago

You seem a little surprised it didn't work. Lets look at what you said...

"Hey, sorry to bug you but I thought you were pretty and I was wondering if I could have your number"

And break it down.

Hey
Nothing really wrong there I guess.

sorry to bug you
Bzzzt. Beta alert. You were probably done right there unless the question was where can I get napkins or where is the restroom.

but I thought you were pretty
Bzzzt. Loser line she hears this ALL.THE.TIME. Try to be a little more original.

and I was wondering
Bzzzt. More Beta-ness.

if I could have your number
By the time you got to what you wanted to really ask you already had 3 strikes. And sorry to tell you this but you are done after 1. You don't get to have any strikes and still have a chance.

Harsh? Maybe. Welcome to modern dating.

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- charli.m
  
  8 years ago
  
  Speak for yourself. Not all women are that shallow.
  
  Sure, not many would hand over a number at the drop of a hat, but this alpha/beta bullshit isn't for everyone, either. Some of us actually get to know people based on more than a dentence before forming judgements.
  
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  - mysistersshadow
    
    8 years ago
    
    I thought I was speaking for myself. You call it shallow I call it being smart and having a idea of what I want. You can hand over your phone number to any one you want I don't care but I have some standards that I use to weed out the guys I know wouldn't be good matches for me and I know many girls that feel the same way I do. I would guess your probly older than me and don't face the same onslaught of potential suitors. I need a filter or I'd do nothing but spend alot of time getting to know them based on more than a sentence and I just don't have that kind of time maybe you do.
    
    But you know the real difference here? I gave him actionable information you just bitched at me for misrepresenting you or all women or something.
    
    So why don't you take a moment and tell us how you would gracefully handle the situation described in the OP. I'm sure it will be educational for all.
    
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    - charli.m
      
      8 years ago
      
      Wow look at the ego on it.
      
      You claim to have attracted a shit tonne of shitheads...and you present yourself as about the same quality.
      
      Someone else already said what I thought, and I indicated as such.
      
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      - Wrong_Again_Dumbass
        
        8 years ago
        
        Attractive women have to do something like what she described. I don't know (or care) whether she is actually attractive or not but what she described plenty of attractive women do, so that they aren't constantly wasting their time dealing with guys who are making awkward passes on them.
        
        Whether she attracts shitheads or not isn't the point (my personal opinion is, she probably does). The point is she is right. I've known a few women who literally can't wear halter tops in the summer to go grocery shopping because it attracts way too much attention....
        
        I don't feel sorry for them, but that doesn't mean the attention probably does get annoying for people like this.
        
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        mysistersshadow
        
        8 years ago
        
        I'm sorry there attacking you for agreeing with me. I think its 1 thing to disagree with someone and make your opinion known and another to abuse a tool on this website to make others comments go away.
        
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      - mysistersshadow
        
        8 years ago
        
        So nothing on how to gracefully handle the situation then? I didn't think so becos there is no way to gracefully handling some random guy approaching you out of the blue with a nothing line like gosh yer pretty and wanting your phone number. Would you invite him to sit down with you so you could get to know him? Would you take him back to work with you when your lunch was over? Invite him home to have dinner and a nice get to know you chat? I'm seriously interested in how you think this should have been handled but I don't expect anything but another baseless deflection.
        
        Oh thats right someone already said what you agreed with but all they said was how he got it wrong as did I. So I guess your going with.... nothing. You don't post much but you sure live up to the rep you have around here.
        
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        Crow
        
        8 years ago
        
        *She, unlike you, actually made some suggestions (instead of just criticisms) on how to improve the OP's social grace rather than subscribing to the black and white "you must either alpha or beta" mindset and claiming it represents "modern dating".
        
        Maybe there is some truth to "beta-ness" being seen as less desirable than "alpha-ness", however, that doesn't change the fact that the method's pretty extremist and binary in its conception. I suspect that you're actually judging potential suitors on the basis of how assertive they are on a *continuum* - except that you're letting small actions yield large judgments and throwing in frat buzzwords like "alpha" and "beta". Nothing wrong with that! It's your choice. Just don't try to paint the entirety of "modern dating" with your philosophy.
        
        Although, I'm a little concerned that your black and white thinking isn't restricted to your dating philosophy. Just because Mel doesn't agree with the alpha/beta idea doesn't mean that she'll automatically accept a stranger with open arms. There's a lot more than just the polar opposite reaction. But, I'll humour you, in terms of handling this kind of situation gracefully, it's not that bad.
        
        OP: Hey. Sorry to bug you but I thought you were pretty and I was wondering if I could have your number.
        Stranger: I'm flattered you find me pretty! Unfortunately I already have a boyfriend. I'm sure you'll find someone else, though. [Smile and turn away.]
        
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- KingTermite
  
  8 years ago
  
  You know OP, she's pretty much spot on with this analysis
  
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  - mysistersshadow
    
    8 years ago
    
    Aw your not as mean as everyone says you are.
    
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    - KingTermite
      
      8 years ago
      
      Lies and innuendo, I am even worse than they say.
      
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I asked for the number of a random girl i saw in public. iin?