I am worried about how my boyfriend sees me

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My boyfriend and i were very good friends before for like two years, now we have like two weeks together or so. When we were just friends he told me the reason why he ended his last relationship, and he told me something like how he and her ex had fun together like joking and how they got along together, and i always kept that in my mind. Now that we are together i can see that we dont really talk too much, like we dont have too much to talk about and it makes me feel so worried because maybe he thinks im boring or something.

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  • jsnpq
    7 years ago

    Be direct and ask him how he feels about you. You are just torturing yourself by wondering. You may not talk much because you have been friends for so long, there isnt much of a getting to know each other vibe going on or that new relationship energy we all love so much.

    Its very much okay to not be talking all the time. Comfortable silences are a good thing but you aren't comfortable with silence. You are insecure and compare yourself to another relationship that really had nothing to do with you.

    Just ask him. Better yet and in addition to, find new things you can do together . Sharing new experiences with someone is one of the best ways to foster closeness between people and maintain affections. No matter what happens its going to be okay. You have lots of time and lots of men to choose from. For real.

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  • smithvax
    7 years ago

    The person from both of u who proposed the other one was attracted before coming in relationship..

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  • Dad
    7 years ago

    Like two years? Well the first thing I'd recommend is that you like start reading stuff, that would be a good start for you guys to develop your vocabulary beyond grade 4.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    You have to realize this: 'not being interested in' or 'getting bored of' someone are really just codewords that = not being attracted enough.

    It is not normal for a guy and a girl to go from a friendship relationship to a romantic relationship. Ask yourself and be honest: which of you is more attractive? Who is initiating the majority of your conversations?

    If he is more attractive (higher value with better prospects), look for him to use the 'not interested in/getting bored' excuse when the time comes. Men and women use these excuses all the time, because it makes us feel better about leaving. We don't like to think it's all about attraction, but it mostly is.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      Why do you say it's not normal to go from friendship to romance? Relationships which start that way are often more solid and longlasting than those based on romance and/or sexual attraction with no friendship component.

      What lasts longest? Friendship or fleeting romance or lust?

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      • riffraffy
        7 years ago

        It's not normal because attraction isn't negotiable, reasonable or sensible but it is ultimately what secures a romantic relationship. Being a friend is easy and something we have far more control over.

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