I am totally in love with an actor. maybe even obsessed.

I understand how you feel, as I too have been obsessed with an actor far beyond it being just a 'celebrity crush'. It wasn't the guy you're talking about, but still.

I don't think this is uncommon at all, just look at any message board dedicated to a celebrity- you are sure to find others like you, if not much more extreme. But that does not necessarily make it healthy. When you get past a certain point in your obsession, it becomes dangerous... you either get too absorbed in your fantasy to the point of delusion or you feel crushed by the realization that you can never be with this person. At the very worst you can act on it and become a stalker, but I find that to be highly unlikely in your case.

To make matters worse, the person you have feelings for isn't that person so much as who you interpret that person to be based on what little you know about them, and the characters they play. This makes it dangerously easy to turn a normal human being into some sort of ideal that is meant to satisfy everything in your life that is lacking. It's perfectly fine to find a celebrity attractive, but realize that if it becomes something more than that that you should take a step back and evaluate your life.

I came to the conclusion that I barely gave celebrities a passing thought back when I had friends, relationships, and a happy, fufilling life. Yet as soon as I became depressed and lonely, I almost immediately began to obsess over a celebrity. Instead of escaping into a fantasy land with someone you can never be with, you have to break out of the destructive cycle and get your life back in order. No one is meant to devote all of their time to thinking about someone they don't even know. I'm not saying you should stop liking this person, but if it ever gets to a point where it hinders your life in any way and you begin to question its normality, try to figure out what's going wrong and change it.

Yes it is normal...
and i am going through a bad time with a celebrity obsession.
Only She is a girl. And i am i girl.
infact.. her name is right there ^ on my username : /
I am really totally in love with her... and sometimes i cry because i just long to be with her so much.
i dont like girls. only her and i have had boyfriends in the past..
the question is am I normal lol :)

I used to be obsessed with Leonardo Dicaprio, he was so hot

OMG.

Me too. Jerry Yan is LOVE.

I don't think it's the same for me and you, though. I feel like yes, I think about how awesome he is, but for me it's always within the context of his shows (like, how he should just tell Yang Guo that he LOVES HER!).

What you need to do, which has helped me, is watch doing interviews. Their images totally changes and switches. And you realize, sometimes, that they're not the characters that they portray. Which is true, but sometimes a hard reality to come to face.

I love Jerry for his acting and singing skills (listening to his song right now^^). Wow, I sound obsessed. But, for me, I know it's just a phase and I feel a characteristic of Japanese/Taiwanese/Korean dramas -- that you become OBSESSED.

But, there is always another show, another actor, to love. I suggest you check out Lee Min Ho in the Korean version of Meteor Garden, "Boys Over Flowers". I was obsessed for a while with him. But then he plays a very different character in his new drama, "Personal Taste". So, I don't feel obsessed with him anymore.

The one person I think I might be truly obsessed over (or set of people, I should say) is the Korean boy band, Super Junior. I dream about meeting them and becoming their friends.

But that's it. Never do I think about being involved with them romantically. For me, if they think that we're friends, that's enough.

Because besides the whole thing that the likelihood of your personalities matching, language barrier, religious barrier, etc. etc., you need to realize that you have to think about their hectic schedule and if by some miracle of god, you were involved romantically, what is the likelihood that it would work out?

I don't know if you're keeping up with "Down with Love", but imagine yourself as Hui Fan. You need to move on. Because he has (since he doesn't know you exist). Instead of reaching for a love that is unattainable and completely unworkable, look for love that is true, doable and will last.

Find your own Yu Ping. [Sorry, didn't watch Meteor Garden, can only make DWL references here].

And realize that looks aren't everything. Because, in your question thing [or whatever you want to call it], you only mentioned his looks. Never the personality of the characters he portrays/ his own character. Don't you think that's a little shallow?

I feel like you need to come to terms with reality. He's amazing, he really is, and I would totally tap that and I want my own Jerry Yan. But that's the important thing: I want my OWN Jerry Yan. Not the original, but one that's PERFECT FOR ME.

i hope I've helped you and if you need any more advice or anything, just contact me.

<3 Stay strong, you'll find your own Jerry Yan.

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And for people who don't know who he is, WTF is wrong with you?!

Leonardo dicaprio for meeeeeeeee yuuum

I kinda obsessed with an actor that is just starting his career. I was in love with him when we went to school together. It has been a few years since I've seen him or talked to him but I'm starting to see him on commercials. It is weird...I get this feeling that if he really makes it big that I'll always watch his stuff as that secret lover that no one will ever know about. I bet every actor/actress has one of those they knew from their past.

oh my god this is SUCH a coincidence. I also have a a crush on Dylan Wang, the lead male role in the 2018 version of Meteor Garden!!! this is actually so scary as you have a crush on one of the 2001 Meteor Garden guys. I too am going through the same struggle as you except I never had a ‘type’ of guy that I wanted. I just saw him in the show and I initially didn’t like him because I wanted Huaze Lei to get the girl (ShanCai) but I slowly developed a MASSIVE and I mean HUGE thing for Dylan Wang, the actor who plays Si in Meteor Garden. I’m from England and I’m 14 so I know I’ll never get the chance to meet him... let alone actually have a romantic relationship with him! His is gonna sound sooo weird and crazy I know, but I genuinely cried today because I was upset that I’m probably never gonna be with him. i am utterly and completely IN LOVE with him... with my whole heart. I’ve never experienced anything like it. it’s insane. it’s got to the point where all I think about is him. I’ve denied going even on DATES with other guys because all I can think about is Dylan. I know it sounds completely ballistic and even i, too am really shocked at myself because of this kind of behaviour... seeing as I’ve never even actually MET him. but I just cannot help it. I don’t know what to do. I’m truly in love with Dylan Wang. A guy I first discovered on a Chinese Netflix show. Is there something wrong with me? Someone help! X

It normal, i think. I am "in love" with a actor too. I'm so obsessed, I can not get him out of my head. I always think about him and it make me happy. I love him so much, his personality, his way of doing think, his smile. If you were weird, then I would be weird too!!

Well, I'm not sure how long ago you've asked this question, but I'm sort of in the same boat. I'm not sure how normal it is - though I figure it's not as abnormal as we think.

Worst than falling in love with a movie or tv-show actor is falling in love with a theater one. Especially if you could see him in the flesh every single weekend if you wanted to. I feel like I'm losing my mind, and I regret the day I decided to watch that play, but I know I'll go back.

And then there are the stupid annoying fantasies, the what ifs, the fact that I could maybe actually talk to him in real life, but not really because I'm a nervous mess just thinking about it, and then there's the fact that he'll probably think I'm weird (and I am weird - regardless of being in love with or at least into him), and even if he doesn't think I'm weird, what then; I'm so not ready for a relationship with anyone, ANYONE, other than to be friends. And I'm making all of this into a snowball. I want to go back but I don't want to go back, and last time I thought he was looking at me (he wasn't - I hope he wasn't - damn first row seats to hell). Okay, I'm done.

Sorry if this wasn't helpful, I'm just losing s---.

Hey there! I know exactly how you feel. I've been through it a couple of times and l'm going through it now as a matter of fact. It used to be Wentworth Miller(Prison break), Julian Mcmahon(Cole, Charmed) and now it's The Walking Dead's latest villain, or Negan...or Jeffrey Dean Morgan. He brightens me up, when l look at that smile of his and those dimples and how down-to-earth and easy-going he is in every interview. It's a bit strange caz he's thirty years older than l am but it just happened. And now k'm watching his interviews and shows where he starred on a loop. But if it's making me happy it can't be that bad? I need tv show obsessions, l am a girl of obsessions...

me too!! JERRY YAN OMG!!actually I'm searching for somebody who is as fangirl to jerry yan as me :)) I think we're perfect combination.what is your nationality? :))

Indeed, very very normal. Like others have said, it's totally normal until it hinders your life in some way. I really like Keith-Lee Castle, hah. :3

Ok totally understand. I am going through the same thing right now with the Lee Min Ho from the Korean version of that show. It is totally normal, even though I don't know the actor you are talking about I am sure he great for you. Believe in your heart and I believe that you will find your own Jerry Yan.

I know how you feel . Im a HUGE Justin Bieber fan. More then a fan. Belieber . I've loved Justin ever sense I first heard One Time. It's totally normal.

I had this with Emily Browning it went away eventually...
It was actually me and my two friends who had it (Suckerpunch) shes just so Beautiful and Awesome

Hey well I love Meteor Garden and I think it is great!!! Loved it!!! But the thing is a came across your post and was chocked to find out I'm not the only one!!
I've been in love with this singer for a long time now, I totally understand what you are going through, he is a japanese singer and at first I was just another fangirl but time passed and by listening to his songs, reading his interviews etc... I suddenly realized I wasnt looking at him like a rock star BUT like a man, an amazing man with a beautiful way of expressing his feelings, his thoughts about life and how much effort he puts in everything he does made me reaize I was totally in love with him! I know it sounds crazy but I'm even moving to Japan i about 6 months hoping can find him, just feel I need to do this. Dunno if I've just lost my mind already but I totally understand the way you feel and I dont know if it is normal but you can be sure you are not the only one, :)

I understand!

to me it's the same thought I was the only crazy in love
But it's not only me since childhood dreaming of a tall guy
red hair and blue eyes simple, however, I thought I would never have one but when I saw the Harry Potter series, well I never saw her as a child if not bigger when I saw Rupert Grint falls in love with me, maybe as you say may be obsession? . nobody knows but I can spend hours looking at your photos, movies and I get bored and just what is in my mind is what I want to know, is like all, many Fantac, some will meet his dream to others. but I love that kid is like always dreamed, my man is perfection.

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