I am too obsessed with my boyfriend and i don't want to be.

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Lately in the past couple of months, i've become really obsessive of my boyfriend. it's not that i'm scared of loosing him or that he will cheat or anything like that because i know i wont or he wont. he is really nice, respectful, treats me like a princess and has his own life. he is perfect. only thing is, i've changed and become this obsessive person. i don't see my friends anymore, or do anything at all, not even clean my room or anything. all i want to do is spend 24/7 with him. he tries to get my friends to spend time with me and tries to make me better but all i do is obsesses. and when he has to go do things during the day, and i have to let him go i just spend time on the computer and facebook which really angers me because it's so boring and i want to go out and do something but i can't. i can only do things if i'm with him. if he says he wants to spend the night at his house i cry and feel so lonely and yesterday really scared me because i started abusing and threatening him to stay at mine.

my last boyfriend i went out with for two years treated me like s*** and tried to control my whole life and i wasnt allowed to do anything besides spend time with him which i hated cause i wanted to go out and go clubbing with friends and just see friends and spend time with myself. now i've totally changed....??

help me what do i do?

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  • chaosdragoon1
    13 years ago

    I wish I had a girl like that...

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  • graphic_nature
    12 years ago

    Aside from the crying and threatening, I was obsessive too and I LIVE with my bf. I would stare at him when he was on the computer and get VERY upset if he didn't pay attention to me.

    First off your bf needs space and he will be VERY put off by your needy behavior so this is something that needs to be addressed. Stop putting him on a pedestal and do things to take your mind off him. Work on your self-esteem.

    I can't say how I changed... I quit my job and just went to school and stayed at home alot while he paid my bills for a year. Guilt I guess is what made me want to give him space and I just got used to it. Now I've got another job hopefully I don't fall back into my old ways of obsession.

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  • sweettooth
    13 years ago

    Think this way hun, if you continue doing that, there's a possibility that he'll break up with you. And Im sure you dont want that. And you dont want to lose yourself just because of him. I think you both should give space for now, your obviously treating him like he's your world and trust me its no good for you. Try to find yourself again Im sure he'll understand. Im not saying you break up with him. just give yourselves time to breath. ok? Give importance to your friends and family.Theyre the ones who can help you stop being obssesive.

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  • cronicmasterbator
    13 years ago

    lol pwnt good slave

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    You sound pretty insightful and seem to know where your clinginess is coming from. You also know that the clinginess may ruin your relationship.

    Tell your bf about your previous relationship if you haven't , because it was emotionally abusive, and you are having trouble getting past it.

    Really try to do thing you enjoy - literally force yourself - to break the pattern. Enlist friends to help you. If you need more than that, get counseling about it. You have to relearn that it is OK to do things on your own. The past of being controlled and isolated to "please" an abusive bf is the past, is not now, not current and definitely not normal.

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  • coconutcreampie928
    14 years ago

    Heres an idea: STOP! YOU CONTROL YOURSELF!! Try to do other things to get your mind off of him. Like, watch a movie or read a book.

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