I am so lonely - i don't even have 1 close friend!

You need someone who can accept you for what you are rather than for what you can be for them.
If you keep tring to impress them the way you are doing you are gonna end locked up in a persona. Then you are gonna find out that persona isn't good to get along with the people you wanna hang out with,and kind of start brooding over your own loneliness even more until you start losing touch with your real self.It's not you driving people away,it's them getting attached to the "false" side of you.
The make believe.To the stunts they pull out of you.And that you play to amuse them.They want you for the good you can do but not for the bad.There is a less stable part of our personality,constantly affected and influenced by the people we interact with,and another side,more stable and simple,which sticks.What we are when we are all alone.All on our own.It sticks For all of our lives.And cannot be changed by no one.It's doomed to come back whatever anyone does to make it change as soon as those people distance themselves.Then you kind of start begging them to do whatever it is they were doing to pull the fun out of you.To make you become what they can accept.What they want you to be in order to accept you as a member of their group or community.So,If you think it's worth it,you can keep playing this personality shifting game,but be careful,never forget what you really are.And only reveal your true nature if you are 100% sure the people you are with,are willing to accept it,or grown dependent and attached to you enough.Good luck.

Hello there,

You sounds like a really nice person. You're probably just hanging out with the wrong people. Be patient and you will find true friends.

You do not need friends, you need goals. Achieving goals is far more rewarding than blathering on about nothing with a bunch of imbeciles. Yes, everybody else is an imbecile when you have no friends, I know.

I'll be your friend :) see that was easy their plenty of people out there willing to be your friend you just haven't ran across them yet

You sound a lot like me through most of my life, so I feel very sad for you and empathize with you! I finally found the right person to share my life with, but not until I was 30! I sure hope you do better. You have gotten some good replies. I hope some of that advice will help you! Good luck! MY heart goes out to you!

I know that situation looks bad but from what you say you seem a lovly girl. Dont worry because when you go to collage you will make many friends.

making friends is not hard if you want to make friends. find somewhere safe and start talking to people you own age. stay away from large groups of people who might be drinking or doing drugs. join a program you have interest in , like a book club or a church group. whatever you like doing. you can find something i'm sure. keep in touch here if you like and i ll keep talking to you

well, i have a similar life, but i dont mind... be like me.. i'm self content..i dont know about you but i'm an introvert.. hope this helps..reply if it doesn't

Join the club. All the friend I've ever had want something, they feed off your energy bleed you dry, borrow your cash & never give it back. When you go nothing to give they dump you

I also have no friends but I am not unhappy.dont try to be someone you are not.there will be people who think,live like you

AS i was reading your comment,i was figuring on down the post somwehere you'd mention something about clubs and partying,as i knew exactly what was happening when you got to the part where you said they stopped hanging with you suddenly.partying and clubbing is so important with the 20 something generation of today that it's actually a priority with a huge lot of them.if you don't party and ,or do clubs,or at least geta buzz goin' with the rest of the gang,they don't want anything to do with you.trust me,this is their attitude..this is their way of thinking..that you're boring to be around..don't cave in to these self centered weasles.sooner or later you'll dind someone to hang out with.it might be a while considering you live iona small town.but don't give in to peer pressure cause this is what this is ALL about..cause you don't party!i knew this was the case before you even mentioned it in your post.i bet you're more positive in your thinking and your actions than they are just generally.negative people don't like to hang or be around someone who is more stable and positive in their thinking...believe me i know!! don't give in..you'll find a friend!!meanwhile..be you!!

thats so strange, not you of course your normal, but i just posted a story somewhat similar to yours, you should check it out, just click on my profile. anyway, however you decide to solve this problem, just keep in mind that its your senior year, and you will be out of high school soon. i guess in the end it dont matter how many friends youve made, because more than half the people who have graduated from high school dont talk to or keep in touch with old classmates unless they run in to them once in a while. people move on, life changes,things just happen, and they all happen for a reason. nobody can tell us what tomarro will be like, so before i get all off topic, i guess what im trying to say is that the future is unexpected and always will be, the best we can do is live life well while were in the present. enjoy high school now because you cant live that twice, but dont get too atached because youll be leaveing it soon.

I have the same problem.Dont listen to anyone.Just be yourself and and make new friends in college.

Hey everyone. Sorry I haven't replied sooner. I just wanted to say thank you for all your advice! It made me feel a lot better :)

There is really nothing you have said that would lead me to think you drive people away. You sound quite articulate, reflective and fair. I think there are many people who would count themselves lucky to have your friendship. You are just not connected to them.

I totally get why you dislike clubbing. And if that is all your small circle of friends value, well, small loss there. But what's worse is they treat you very shabbily. No friends are better than bad friends. You may be a bit lonely, but that is better than constantly having your self esteem cruelly torpedoed. Try not to rack yourself over their bad behaviour.

Good on you not getting discouraged & looking forward to college and new friends. There you'll likely not have all your eggs in one basket by building a wider social circle.

So its just bad luck on the friend front for now, nothing you've done or need to change about yourself. But try to enjoy your summer. You didn't mention what else you'd be doing (working, programs, volunteering, visiting) but I do hope you have other things happening to help you through this little dry spell.

It seems like you struggle to make friends because you are very reliant on them. Instead of thinking 'I need friends to live' think 'I live my life, but sometimes it's good to just chill with mates'. You're not doing anything wrong, maybe expriment with other types of people, people who have the same interest as you. I am sure you won't spend summer alone.

Start exploring yourself and getting to know yourself better...what (other than people)do you enjoy? What makes you happy? What do you enjoy doing, learning about, etc.? When you know yourself better then you can be more self expressive...even if you are an introvert, and this will attract new friends. Figure out what you care about - then find ways to meet other people who also have the same interests as you do. You can look for groups in the local paper or online. Do you have a job? Sometimes we are able to meet our social needs through co-workers. People cannot ignore you at work if it is a social job where you have to interact with others to accomplish things. Whatever you do, also figure out a way to enjoy being alone and remember that this too shall pass. Summer will end before you know it and college will bring many changes into your life (some wonderful and some difficult!) Learn to love yourself and give yourself a big hug. Whatever you do, stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself like that you are boring or needy. We all have social needs for attention and sharing with others. It's okay. And no human being is boring. Be gentle with yourself...don't worry about what other people think. Endure the loneliness while you have it and trust that new and true friends will come into your life sooner or later. They will. They really will. Hang in there...