I am smart but but smart girls don't indulge with me

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Hi..I am 26 years of age,5,ft'11 tall a handsome guy. All girls says that I am a guy about a girl dreams(ok that is a virtualizatoin)In practical, where ever I go or stand girls surround me but I can't entertain every girl. But I am shy in taking to girls(even who surrounds me, or with whom I want to make friendship)I feel comfortable talking to a less attractive or an average girl but(I don't know) I can't/afraid/shy taking to a well dressed/fashioned beautiful girl. Is it normal ???? All the beautiful girls, please help me out.

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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

Who says "indulge" anymore? Are you some kind of Swiss ambassador at a Victorian party?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Please, I'm looking for a genuine answer mostly by smart girls, so that, I can cope up with this problem. Everybody have some or the other weakness and if you are going to criticise everybody's post this way then people will start losing faith on blogs(whatif you have posted some serious trouble about you and people start mocking at you ??? think twice before replying just anyting
  
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  - GoraIntoDesiGals
    
    11 years ago
    
    Aap desi hain na?
    
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    11 years ago
    
    Fine fine. It may sound lame but what always helps me is to say out loud what's good about yourself:
    
    For me I say something like, "I'm not bad on the eyes, fiercely intelligent, charismatic, powerful blah blah blah blah". Even if those things aren't true (I'm not claiming nor disclaiming), people will perceive you as you perceive yourself.
    
    It's innately simple but don't be deceived. It's the simplest things in life that tend to be the most beautiful and also the most effective.
    
    Good luck.
    
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myboyfriendsbitch

11 years ago

I am not convinced about your intelligence.

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- fetusfister
  
  8 years ago
  
  me neither. he seems to be full of himself.
  
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- q25t
  
  11 years ago
  
  Maybe ESL?
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    11 years ago
    
    Well..I am a convent school graduate. Top scorer in English. Also, well versed in US & Brit accent:)
    
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  - walkabout.roth
    
    11 years ago
    
    @myboyfriensbitch
    I'm generally known for my good sense of humor among girls. What is "ESL" ?? Only thing goes awery is 1- I'm shy/afraid talking to a well dressed/ upto date/beautiful girls. I start thinking that "why should I approach she is moodern and smart, she should come to me(male ego)/what will she think of my act"seeing a beautiful girl for the first time"; I tried on several times but always got a No even for friendship.So, onward I have made a conclusion that every beautiful girl/modern/well fashioned/ versed is always full of attitude/ a not to be. Whereas, an average looking girl herself approaches me(to which, I don't entertain much,also got several marriage proposals by them, I refused/ don't want to marry/ or be in relation with them) whereas, my friend who is short height, average looking has models/beautiful girls as girl friend. ????
    
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    - q25t
      
      11 years ago
      
      It means English as a Second Language.
      
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Alettago

11 years ago

I'm a female student and i understand the problem kind of, I usually end up talking with less attractive guys when i'm at a party because I'm shy and they are just easy to be with. They also would never hit on me btw. Sometimes it worked out for me if a nice looking guy just smiled at me, it makes me more confident to go talk to them... that's how I got my two (ex) boyfriends. ;)

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thankss..dear for boosting my confidence..
  
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kit-kat-bar

11 years ago

Keep talking to the pretty girls, eventually it will get easier. You will find one that will think it is cute that you are shy, so don't worry about it. I am a pretty enough girl and one of the things that I liked about my boyfriend when we first me was that he is a little shy.

Try telling her a joke, sounds cheesy, but if you can make her laugh then you added a brownie point. Also, don't disregard other girls just because they are not up to your standards on looks. If you are looking for a relationship then you will see that you are not going to be into her looks as much as her personality when you are together for a year.

Have stuff prepared that you are going to talk about. Like if you don't smoke, say something like, "yeah my boss at work lets everyone take a smoke break, but I don't smoke. However I still ask him if I can take a smoke break to get some fresh air, it feels good." Then right after that you can find out if she is a smoker or not, and made conversation at the same time.

Being shy is easier to overcome and deal with than you think. Think of the interview you did for your latest job. Were you nervous? Did you plan on what you were going to say?
Having something prepared to say makes things a little bit easier, right?,,, Then when you got the job you were still nervous a little about fitting in, doing a good job, etc. Then as time went on, work for you became like second nature right? Still learning new things from time to time, but that is like how a relationship is. Or should I say dating.

Rules.
1 have something planned to say, not everything, just enough to keep the conversation flowing.
2 Tell her a silly joke, girls like guys who can make them laugh. it eases tension.
3 It is okay to be nervous, that will go away with time and practice, just like at work.
4 Realize that this girl is just a person with a personality, just like you and other girls.
5 Don't worry if you fail, you will learn, just don't beat yourself up about it. It's demise.

Being mentally prepared before you go out will help you soooo much, Have fun!! Let me know how it goes!!!

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- walkabout.roth
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thanks Kit it was a really nice experience you shared with me. I will defiantly give it a try, really very encouraging words!!
  
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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

toughen up soldier!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thanks!!
  
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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

That explains allot

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michaels4p5

11 years ago

now feel good i even came on this post im shrugging away now mike gone.

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Sailor_Cosmos

11 years ago

You are insecure, have low self esteem,lack confidence and go for less attractive women because you feel there is a lower chance that they will reject you. If you really truly believed that you are smart, and handsome and the man of ever girl's dream you would have no problem talking to these women that you think are so beautiful. Work on building your self confidence and you will be able to talk freely to any woman no matter how beautiful she is.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thanks sailor.. maybe you are correct then others..I'll try implementing your suggestion
  
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  - Sailor_Cosmos
    
    11 years ago
    
    You're welcome.
    
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mitochondria

11 years ago

I'm gonna go ahead and say that anyone who thinks all 'smart/modern/beautiful' girls have attitude or should come to them and turns down girls purely based on the fact that they're average looking probably isn't all that smart or great anyway.
Maybe I'm misunderstanding you, though, in which case I apologize.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  No..you have a point too. But consider once "the thing you like the most and at the moment you get thing what you din't wanted" <reaction is normal friend:)> din't wanted" <reaction is normal friend:)>
  
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americanhoney

11 years ago

Myboyfriendsbitch took the words right out of my mouth. LOL

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Anime7

11 years ago

I'm confused, what is your question?

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I am smart but but smart girls don't indulge with me