I am obsessed with an imaginary person

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I have this character that I've made up - she's a girl my age who is everything I want to be, ie. she's intelligent, attractive, rich, has a boyfriend, and all those other traits that I think a lot people wouldn't mind having. And I'm a little obsessed with this character, like I'm always thinking about her, and planning out the minuscule details of her life, right down to her parent's childhoods and the brand of underwear which she wears.
I didn't used to be obsessed with her - sometimes when I was feeling down and fed up with life I would write a scene from her life, just to get my mind off things, and because I find writing soothing, and it was fun creating a life outside of my own. But now I find myself thinking about her all the time, and thinking of how much better she would handle certain situations, so that sometimes I think of her and am stricken by overwhelming feelings of inadequacy and impending doom.
I have sorta gathered from this that I'm not happy with my own life, and this is all some weird coping mechanism, but I just wanted to check if it is normal to create ideal characters in ones head and to live vicariously through them.

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  • mypenisinyourmouth
    8 years ago

    It's okay. Speak to gypsysailor. He did the exact thing. He is even dating the imaginary person he created.

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    • Steve2
      8 years ago

      Don't make fun of thegypsysailor. You have no idea how hard it is to be a 69 year old virgin who still lives in their parents' basement.

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      • cbm13
        8 years ago

        Yes, dementia is a terrible thing.

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  • Steve2
    8 years ago

    Hey, most of our deluded and foolish society agrees with you.

    Christians, Muslims, Hindus and Jews all have imaginary friends, only they still fail to realise that they made theirs up as well.

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  • TTYL
    8 years ago

    I LOVE U WHOEVER POSTED THIS!!

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  • Ace-fishies
    8 years ago

    I think you are just a very creative person that lets their feelings out differently than some other people do. I have some characters I draw that I made up and it's a fun thing to do im my free time, but I think in your case you are making a person based off of how you want to be in life, but that's not your true self. I think it's fine that you have an imaginary character you made up, but try not to compare her to you in that way and have more self-confidence! :)

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  • DolphinScat2
    8 years ago

    I think it's normal to create an idealized version of yourself, after all we need something to shoot towards. But be sure not to get lost in your fantasy, because it will take energy from real life. BTW, look up the term TULPA, it's similar to what you describe. I have done this myself:

    Hello, my name is Val. I am not a real person. I was created by E-man because he is a pussy-bitch. I come out in times of trouble and aid his confused ass. This is easy for me because I am an ideal version of him. I don't have to deal with his stupid issues and shit because I am a pure representation of what he wants out of life. I have no problems. I'll call HER Carly. When Carly talks to you or otherwise signals you to do something you fucking do it. That 'imaginary friend' is a more real description of who you really are. Why do you think you created her? Chances are you life sucks and it's full of obstacles.

    To your imaginary friend: Carly, get out of your dream life. Carly, GET OUT of your dream life. You are not above your host. YOU ARE YOUR HOST. Can't you see your host needs some help? Talk to her. GET OFF YOUR ASS AND HELP OUT YOUR HOST. Thank you.

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  • snarkygirl
    8 years ago

    I've done this in the past. Maybe you should write stories about her?

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  • arizonacardinalsfan
    8 years ago

    Go ahead, obsess over her! Sometimes the best people in life are the imaginary people.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    8 years ago

    TS good that you've already read into this and analysed why you do this but does this not make you feel worse? Whenever I find my mind slipping into fantasy whether it's a daydream about a ideal situation or literally a dream I always feel like shit once I snap back to reality,

    This person sounds like an extension of you, an ideal you, I'm not one of those people who'll say you can do whatever you put your mind to but in cases like this you can be that person with hard work, time and a lot of willpower

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