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I am never catcalled (and I am also never hit on or approached). I live in an area where catcalling is common and it happens to other women who live here. I am 5'4 and 120 lbs. Does this mean I am ugly. I am really starting to think I am ugly because I never really get any male attention and never had a boyfriend. ))):
You're lucky. There's nothing that great in being catcalled. It's disrespectful.
Ugh, can't you see that she wants it? Why do you have to tell her that you're different? How is this helping anybody?
"I want to have sex and I never do"
"You're lucky because I don't want to have sex"
"I want to get male attention and I never do"
"You're lucky because I don't want male attention"
"I want to be catcalled but I never am"
"You're lucky because I find it disrespectful"
How is this making any sense?
... because it's not like the guys who do that aren't ugly toads.
*no disrespect to actual toads*
Well, I'll give you this one. But telling a woman that she is sexy is a fucking compliment and I hate leftist offended feminist pussies who can't take a compliment. If she won't care then that's her choice, nobody said that she must act in a specific way. However, pussyfing the nation so much that men can't even talk anymore will destroy your society. It happens already in some part of the world. Have fun being replaced by muslims and living submissively with burqas for the following centuries.
Personally, I wouldn't want that kind of attention. Though I think it also depends on how often you go out, your fashion sense, and the area you live in.
Women. Complain when they're catcalled, complain when they're not catcalled.
When I was 15 I was walking somewhere with my Dad and this old man was staring at my boobs for too long. I scowled and crossed my arms over my chest, and my Dad saw the whole thing.
He said "it's the curse you'll always carry. When men look at you it makes you angry because you feel violated. But if no one looks at you it makes you feel unattractive. You can't win so just ignore it all".
I don't think he was right to tell a teenage girl how she should react to an old man staring at her hooters, but I do kind of live by that sentiment now because I realised (many years later) that he's right.
Look, don't look, I couldn't give a fuck.
Fuck sides. Just be on the side of fairness. Don't lump women into one category and treat us like a hive mind, we are just people like you, all individuals. And equally don't roll over and take it when feminism goes too far. When women were truly being oppressed we fought back, and we fought fucking hard. And we won. Now the tables have turned too far and you're getting the short end of the stick and you're just letting it happen. Stand up for yourselves. Be heard. Women didn't stand for that shit and neither should you
I was referring to an earlier argument we had (me and EnglishLad). About the feminist thing, I don't care and I never hang out with leftist feminist women. I can't get British friends or females and they don't give a fuck about me or my existence as an immigrant in the UK either. Good, I'm ok with being isolated and I don't want any feminists around me either, while most of them in my University are like that. Lots with dyed hair, tight pants, ready to go out and be oppressed. You can't have an opinion that doesn't fit their standards or agenda anymore, so I'd rather be alone. I'm letting it happen because I have no word. Last time I tried to express myself I got "attacked" by a bunch of faggots and pussies who permanently gossip and talk trash about others behind their backs, and I get instantly excluded from their social circles because I'm a Trump supporter, which is apparently an offensive and almost illegal thing here. I cannot integrate socially here, that's a given. But I keep working hard and that is enough to contribute to your government, education and economy so I'm happy with that.
I am also English (live in a different continent now and no plans to ever move back under any circumstances) and I'm sorry on behalf of England that my people have been such twats to you. England has a lot of great people but unfortunately there is an imposing left wing mist in the air. You can speak freely and say what you really think as long as it's exactly what they think. And yes, you're right, being a Donald Trump supporter might as well be illegal. Talk about fucking democracy lol. Good luck...
Where in the world do you ladies live that catcalling women is a common occurrence? I've lived most of my life in areas known for their "white trash" ( New Orleans and selma alabama ) and I can think of only two instances when it happened in my presence. One time it was done by a guy I knew named Ernie Potts, probably the trashiest person I ever knew.
I've always hated being catcalled while walking somewhere, it's sexual harassment.
That's so crazy. He shouldn't have cat called to that level, but she shouldn't have damaged his property like that.
I don't feel the least bit sorry for that pathetic bastard! He also trying to touch her. He treated her like a piece of meat. What he really deserved was a beat down. He is sub-human garbage!
I think that physical coercion is where you draw the line. Tbh I didn't look deep enough as to if he properly wen for that shirt, if he did then he deserves what's coming, but generally speech does not equate to a physical reaction in my books.
You probably look young for your age. Catcallers aren't all that picky, but don't want to go to jail.
I use to be sad that men didn't pay attention to me in my late teens and early 20s (insecurity), but then I discovered that I looked 14+ to most people, so I stop caring. Now at 28, I look like I'm 20 - 25, problem is now I'm getting catcalled all the time just suddenly a few years ago.
It's not fun and shouldn't be used as a compliment. I had some downright scary encounters with catcallers.
I've been catcalled and sexually harassed from the age of 13 to approximately the age of 37, and it has been the scourge of my existence. The guys who catcall are always ugly, wretched, pigs so if anything their attention makes me feel ugly, and dirty! I honestly have wished I could look at them, and strike them dead with my eyes!
Now at 48 I am at peace.
Where do you live?? I travel a lot for my work - all over the US, Europe and Asia, and I’ve never seen a woman get catcalled. Maybe you’re in the Middle East - one of the areas I haven’t been.
You're more lucky than you'll ever know. BEING CATCALLED SHOULD BE ILLEGAL.
It should not be illegal. That's ridiculous. I am not so weak and soft that I need the police to come and arrest someone for shouting "nice tits". I am not automatically a victim in every situation just because I'm female, and the more the law tips in our favour, the more that message is being spread. I wish we could go back to feminism being about empowerment, rather than infantilisation of women.
I'm not that weak, and fragile, but I don't enjoy being harassed. If I could shoot arrows out of my eyes at guys who make me uncomfortable I would.
Just to be clear, I wasn't accusing you personally of being weak and fragile. I don't know you but I've seen a lot of your comments on here and you seem perfectly able to handle yourself.
I just feel very disconnected from modern feminism because it's goals do not align with anything that I feel is important. That's why I made that comment
If youre not fat.
youre not ugly.
who cares about cat calls?
Yea, Ive heard a few.
But its not like Id ever talk to or take seriously some guy doing it.
Seems a little odd that someone 5'4" and 120 doesn't at least get flirted with.
But the lack of catcalls -
Because every person on the planet has a cell phone, I imagine it is less common now since people might be afraid of a stupid lawsuit and end up being clumped in with guys like Kavanaugh.
If you do not know who he is -
He is that politician that raped Colin Kaepernick.
Nope.
I get what you're saying, but it's honestly something to be glad about.
i dont think its as big of a thang as its made out to be outside the ghetto
they dont think youre easy! OR you look cool and intimidating while youre walking down the street. or maybe youre always just wrong place wrong time and miss the catcallers. please dont base your beauty off if assholes try to get your attention!!
I'd catcall you all day, little kitty.
Ps: No it doesn't mean you're ugly
Does that even happen to anyone anymore outside of the moderate Arab world? I've worked many of construction jobs and the only mention of passing hot chicks was private.
I don’t think your hight and weight makes you ugly. I’d be happy to not get attention I attract weirdos. I’ve seen many attractive people not get attention. I don’t like attention but I also get the kinda attention I really don’t want. Just because you don’t get catcalls doesn’t mean you’re ugly.