I am nervous about going on a date with a colored man..

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I've met a very nice guy, with very similar interests. He has asked me out on a date. I feel very nervous and apprehensive about it, purely because of the color of his skin, because I have never kissed, touched, hugged a black man before. It bothers me ALOT that I let the color of his skin bother me. I know its so ignorant and rude, but I can't help my feelings. I grew up in a circle of friends that were white supremacists, and all though I do not share their views (I believe we are all equal, no matter the race) their views have rubbed off on me a bit to the extent that I am just plain nervous about being with this guy. I am going to jump the cliff, and go on a date and see where it leads to, but the question is, is it normal for a woman like me, that grew up in the situation like me, to be nervous about going on a date with him?

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  • skinnyfrenchgirl
    8 years ago

    Just be aware that some cultures have different ways off treating women. look for red flags to spot if he sexist, or manipulative as with any other guy. Hopefuly he is a great guy.

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  • whos-lovin'you
    12 years ago

    just go out with him and relax and have a good time!! and try not to let your friends get to you. we have to what we want in this life. what is the point of hiding behind stereotypes and trying to please others? do what means the most to you. if you want to see this man then go for it!!

    besides black babies are sooooooooooo cute!! :P

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  • theytookthisone
    12 years ago

    Do it. But once you go black, you dont go back..

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  • CandyGirl1998
    13 years ago

    go out with him a man is a man and if hes a jerk then dump him but dont not go just because hes black

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Joliegems: last sentence, made my fucking day

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  • ruralfrights
    14 years ago

    A "colored" man?

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  • Alaskaraven
    14 years ago

    ANYTHING new is will cause trepidation.

    I was NOT raised among white supremacists, and have never dated a black guy either... would likely also be nervous. You think he wasn't the first time he dated some white chick?

    Tell him how you feel, ask him about it. Who better to talk it over with?

    And the big penis? Let us know...

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  • joliegems
    14 years ago

    OMG, who calls them coloreds these days.....???

    I say go for it. After two dates you won't even notice the skin color difference.

    Also, be prepared for a huge penis if you get intimate with him.

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    • RomeoDeMontague
      10 years ago

      I am not the OP and not defending this idea but a lot of black people do not like the term "black" so I believe "Colored" would be preferable.

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  • Magicer
    14 years ago

    Go ahead and Have Fun, It's Not strange to date a black man but it's also not very common to see White women with black men.

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