I am dating my moms childhood friend

Age gaps become much less relevant in adulthood. Boojum is 100% correct about the double standards though. You and your woman's bravery in the face of those biases is commendable. Be prepared for some backlash, but at the end of the day, the opinions mattering most ought to be yours and hers. No one else has a right to determine the direction of your life and relationships.

What does your girlfriend think about how you should handle the situation? She's known your mother for a lot longer than you, so she should have some ideas on the best way to deal with this.

Lots of people who find an older man with a younger woman perfectly acceptable have problems with the reverse. That's irrational, but it's a fact, and so it won't be just your mother's response that might cause problems for you two.

But at twenty-four, you're not a kid anymore, and you have the right to be with whomever you want. Your mother's main concern should be that you're in a positive, loving relationship with a good person who truly cares about you. So why should your mother be upset if you're with someone she knows very well and who she apparently likes well enough to have stayed friends with for forty years or so?

I suppose your mother might have problems getting her head around the idea just because it's something she never even considered possible. Given the general paranoia these days about child sexual abuse, she might also immediately wonder if something inappropriate happened between you and your girlfriend when you were much younger and she was babysitting you. Or your mother might just have problems due to knowing that there's zero chance she's going to be the grandmother of your child if you stay with your girlfriend.

Have you actually laid your cards on the table with your girlfriend? Does she understand how serious you are about your relationship? Or is it possible that she assumes there's no chance it will be long-term because you'll soon want to move on to someone closer to your own age?

Not easy, but can be done. I ran into the niece of one of my older sister's long-time friends, we chatted, and I asked about her aunt, "Denise" who I had a huge thing for years ago. She was probably my first real crush and hardon inducer.

I kept seeing the niece at the chain restaurant/bar where she worked and I frequented, always asking about her aunt. One weekend, niece texted me saying "If you're around, my Aunt Denise will be here tonight". Hell, yes, I thought..I'm so going to see her.

Met up with Denise, had a few drinks at the bar, and caught up. It was nice, and, she still did it for me. I wasn't a kid anymore, so, worked on Denise until getting her to leave with me. We went back to my house, had the wild sex I'd wanted to for many years, and started casually dating. We did discuss my sister a few times, the age difference, and that Denise knew I was after her even back then.

I told my sister all about Denise, and she gave it the thumbs-up, also saying "You wanted her way back when. Even I knew that", and she didn't feel at all weird that her younger brother was dating someone she basically grew up with. The years difference wasn't that bad, but was enough that it initially raised a few questions. We dated several months, until she moved out of state for her job. I enjoyed every bit of her, physically and otherwise. Hell, if she were still here, I'd probably still be with her.

its normal especially if shes a hot milf.

Sounds like you might be (or not) looking for a mother figure, and she possibly fits that bill. Perhaps your mother wasn't as nurturing as you'd hoped.

Otherwise, it's relatively normal to at some point desire a relationship with a family friend or even a relative like a cousin or aunt even if it's just for a moment.

I still don't think it's a wise choice for you and the fireworks are going to come eventually