I am confused about how to move on with a girl i met recently

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Hey guys and girls! I'm 22 and I have to admit that I have very little experience when it comes to dating and approaching girls. To begin with, due to a lucky coincidence I met a kind girl at the swimming pool, while I was excercising. We had a pretty much good talk and we've started to fancy each other. So, making a rough guess, I might have done something wrong, due to my being over-enthusiastic. In order to come to the point, I told her by the end of our first conversation that I would fancy going out with her soon. She didn't respond negatively, however her answer was very imprecise in terms of arranging the time of a possible meeting. We talked recently on facebook and she mentioned that we'll meet in two days time at the swimming pool. Well, I can understand that the whole thing might sound somehow confusing, but I just don't want to mess things up. I just don't want to give her the impression that I am rushing things or come over needy in some kind of way. All in all, I am just worried when should I ask her out again, 'cause I am aware of the fact that girls usually don't ask guys out, even if they would intend to do so. I would appreciate some advice in order to help me avoid making a wrong judgement call. Thanks

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Ask her to go to a coffee shop or pub after swimming. If she doesn't want to go shes really not interested. Your problem the first time was not setting a definite time and place.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Hmm... I think it will help her to feel more safe and secure and will help you to feel more confident if you can be casual and conversational. Maybe casually ask her what she's up to after a workout, then ask her if she'd like to grab some smoothies or frozen yogurt when ya'll get done at the gym? I think it will stress you out more and perhaps sound like more of a big deal to her if you ask her out on a romantic dinner date right out of the gate. It's much more relaxed and natural to invite her out for a simple activity that one might go out for after a workout at the gym. Just be natural, cool, calm and be yourself. I think your goal here is to get to know her better, see how much ya'll have in common and find out whether or not the two of you are compatible. I'm sure she's a very lovely and attractive person, but there are plenty of pretty faces out there. You want to find out more and see that the beauty is more than skin-deep.

    Hang in there, relax, be cool and try not to stress out.

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