I am compromising myself for my boyfriend, iin?

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We have been dating for almost 10 months. Please excuse my Novel. We had a really prolonged honey moon stage b/c at one point the distance between us only made us feel stronger for each other. I am his first love and he is 19. He is my 1000th love it feels like but it doesn't make him any less special to me.

He lost his job and now all his calm cool rational self has gone out the window. I let him rip me apart when we argue. But lately I have had too much. I can put up with a whole lot of stupid crap till it really bothers me. So I have reached my limit, and not once of patience is left for me to give.

I came up with the idea of finding something healthy to do to let out some stress. But I know i am compromising myself for him, b/c I love him that much. Had he be any other person I would have told him off already and ended things.

Should I detach and end it? or should I stick with him till the problem gets fixed?

There is that issue too. I don't know what exactly his problem is.. Stress? No idea. Is it normal to keep compromising myself for some one who seems to not even notice or reciprocate?

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  • dalmationUntoyourSoul
    12 years ago

    maybe you could encourage him to find healthy ways to vent his negativity rather than verbally abusing you. he should be the one looking for outlets to deal with his problems, not you looking for an outlet for stress because of him. he's stealing your happiness. if you really love him work on it, but i think people come and go and it usually hasn't been worthwhile to compromise myself for someone.

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  • Antares
    12 years ago

    I went through a similar situation: My girlfriend was suffering from chronic depression a while back. Her boss constantly bitched at her and threatened to fire her, though not openly but I guess the asshole made it obvious underneath his implications.

    So she came back home to lash out on me.

    It was OK during the first weeks, until she got to the point where she took me for granted. Like I'm a toy an angry child would beat and thrash around (just a morph).

    I confronted her, nicely at first, but girls are going to be girls.. We broke things off for a week, she self-evaluated, and now she learns to take stress better than before.

    Point is, you should detach yourself from him if he's still a douche to you after confrontation. If he really wants you back, he'd make effort and change for the better. You put up with his act thus far, it's time he man the hell up and learn to handle things mature way, not sulk like a 3-year-old.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Don't allow anyone to treat you badly! Dump his @ss if he's not treating you right. Don't ever make yourself inferior to a partner, you should be with him coz he makes you feel good - no other reason.

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    if you care him, stick it out and try to work things out with him. allowing him to rip you apart is not working things out. have you talked to him and told him how he's been making you feel lately?

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