I am attracted to females, but i don't get pleasure when i have sex

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So I am a male, 22 years old, I am really attracted to females, also a bit jealous of them, I usually have sex, penetration etc, the thing is I am never satisfied with it, I don't like the act, even while I'm doing it. I would prefer to be a female and be with a female, it's really weird, but masturbation feels better than having sex, I don't really like my genital, I get pleasure with it but never more than that. I would prefer even cuddles and holding hands than having a sexual rapport. Is it normal? I am really confused, I was always jealous of girls, their figure, manners, walking, hair everything, when I think of being a man I am depressed, could I be transgender maybe? Some advice needed, how should I act?

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Pretty weird mate. I would say it is more likely that you suffer from gender dysphoria as opposed to just don't like sex for some reason. It sounds like you are more jealous of women more so than actually wanting to ram yourself into one.

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  • leggs91200
    4 years ago

    When you do start living as a woman, yeah iy is a process, with or without HRT, surgery and all that. But, once you have established an initial "look" for your femme self, things will start coming together and you will feel good about yourself.

    BTW, have you picked a female name yet?

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  • asdfgh0987
    4 years ago

    You very well may be trans. Only way to tell is through yourself and maybe some therapy, which I would highly recommend. My girlfriend has expressed how she felt before coming out (we started dating after she came out) and she described a lot of the same feelings you're having. Only difference is she gets sexual pleasure still, but I think that has something to do with embracing her identity. Buy a garment you might be interested in, like a dress or a scarf or even a ladies' t-shirt and see how you feel in it. Try to envision yourself the way you want to be seen by others. Is it more feminine? More masculine? Do you experience dysphoria, where you feel ashamed and become hyper-aware of your body or genitals and wish to change them? I suggest you seek out counseling to make a decision, but definitely do some research on transgenderism.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Oh I see, I've already put on some girl clothes but didn't feel good because I was self conscious, well you know, having a male body and not fitting in them well. I probably am transgender. I would like to be seen more feminine, I actually feel super unattractive,the more I feel feminine the better my mood will be. Though I do have some days when I feel manly and don't mind, but I don't really like feeling that way because I become a bit aggressive. It's really weird. My genitals really don't serve much, at least the ones I have. I don't really enjoy them. Though I think I would feel good having the female counterpart, I don't think I would use them much either.

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      • asdfgh0987
        4 years ago

        Maybe sex will come with age or becoming more comfortable with yourself. Or maybe not. You always have the option of not getting gender reassignment surgery and just doing HRT to feminize your features and tucking your penis. Estrogen will actually shrink your penis quite considerably and will at some point make your erections less common, nonexistent, and sometimes painful if they do try to happen. If that sounds like something that would appeal to you, I'd definitely talk to a doctor.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          True, but I think if I start Hrt then I should probably have gender reassignment surgery, if I start something I might as well finish it. Also it correspond better to the other parts of my body I think.

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          • asdfgh0987
            4 years ago

            There's no right way to "start or "finish" being trans you lovely butterfly you. Transitioning never stops. It takes a lifetime of dedication and changes. Your feelings may change in the future. Never close yourself off to any options you still have. Make the informed choices that are going to be best for you long-term, and that you feel most strongly about. My girlfriend wants a vagina more than anything in the world, and it's something that she knows she'll get some mileage out of with yours truly, so she's sure that she wants this. Give yourself time to think about it and grow as a person and as a transgendered individual before you become dead-set on anything.

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