I am always yelling at my teenage son iin

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he isn't bad he just is so insensitive and irresponsible.Half the time I am not even mad at him he is there so I yell at him.He seems to not like being around me and often ignores my yelling at him.He only let the car warm up for 2 minutes before he drove up.He doesn't use the shower properly. he doesn't cook or do the dishes the way I would. I always let it warm up for at least 20 even if I am late. He left to buy groceries and run errands and forgot to put the deadbolt on so his three year old brother didn't run outside while I was still sleeping.He said he tried to wake me up and tell me what was going on. I totally lost it yesterday because He forgot to call me and let me know he was going to get a milkshake after work. I panicked and called his work they seemed annoyed I called. ( I call there a lot to see what he is doing) He claims the cops had a road block and he couldn't leave.

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  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    How would you like it if someone was yelling at you all the time for no reason? You'd probably eventually just block it out like your son does, and grow to resent the person yelling at you.
    You should practise not yelling. It's fucking annoying.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    The one constant in every family dynamic is that we each learn how to "push the buttons" of every family member. He pushes yours and you push his, and round and round we go; there seems no way out.
    From your post, perhaps a little compromise by each of you could go a long way toward easing the tension.
    Honestly, 20 minutes seems a lot in a modern car; I'd check with the manufacturer's recommendations. How does one use the shower improperly, and is worth making a big deal out of it?
    The dead bolt thing seems a no brainer to me; do it or lose an important privilege (phone, internet, etc.). After all his brother's life may be at stake.
    Most teens think everybody older is a dumbass and that they always know what's best. You have a job as a parent, to protect them from themselves, but you must be very careful not to let your own fears overpower being reasonable doing so.
    Good luck.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Why not just leave him alone? Does the yelling do any good? Of course it doesn't - no wonder he doesn't want to be around you, would you want to be around someone who yelled at you so much?

    The warming up of the car sounds totally weird to me: I don't know of any motor vehicle that needs to be warmed up at all, let alone for 20 minutes, unless you drive a very old diesel vehicle.

    You sound rigid and verbally abusive and obsessed with trivialities: why would he have to let you know he stopped for a milkshake if he's old enough to be working?

    I'll bet he can't wait to grow up and get away from you. You're the grown up here, act like one and try treating him with respect, maybe you'll get some respect back.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    Your son sounds like a godsend compared to some others.

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    this is ridiculous ? you sound extremely controlling and probably lead a boring life . I think you need to get a life , have sex more and leave that poor boy alone . He didn't let the car warm up long enough? who the hell do you think you are ? are you kidding me ...... he forgot the dead bolt? you're a mother , wake the fuck up and watch your son .. he forgot to tell you he was going to get a milk shake? you're not his girlfriend so unless you want to fuck him , stop being so possessive . This kid sounds like a very nice boy and these are very common things to occur for a teenager . Get off his dick and get onto your husbands , spend less time yelling at him . This one bothered me ... it sounds outrageous

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    • regisphilbin
      8 years ago

      lol

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      • Aries
        8 years ago

        reading this back , this is outside the norm of the comments I usually provide . I might have been a little too harsh here ... it rubbed me the wrong way for some reason . I stand behind my core feeling though , it does sound super ridiculous .

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    I don't think it's entirely normal and you sound a bit obsessive and controlling. Also you let your three year old roam the house while you are still asleep by himself?

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  • vitogenovese
    8 years ago

    You should blow him.

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  • LizardSkin
    8 years ago

    I shouldn't have to remind you that most teens are assholes, therefore your son is probably going to be an asshole for awhile much of the time.

    This sounds normal, assuming there are no beatings or over the top verbal abuse.

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