I am alone - office

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I just shift to a new job. I feel that i hardly find new friends at my new office. I once approach some few guys to talk but after that i dont feel want to talk to them. Now im spending my time ALONE surfing the net. I want to change my LONELINESS but my past experience makes me feel cautious on finding friends because i have been bullied, backstabbed however i did fight back now im trying to be more cautious and just be in my own world. I have been working here for the last 3 months and i dont have any close workmates yet. One of the reason is i find some of the are not serious to work and too playful. IS THAT NORMAL?

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    "One of the reason is i find some of the are not serious to work and too playful. "

    Maybe it's me but it sounds a bit like you're judging them already. And you wonder why they don't associate with you much?

    You can't be cold and standoffish to people and then expect them to try to warm up to you.

    Sure you've been "stabbed in the back" but... that doesn't mean you can't say "hi" to coworkers and talk about say... the latest sports game, or whatever just to get a conversation flowing.

    Who knows, once you start trying to talk to them they'll realize you just start out slowly and they'll start opening up to you too.

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  • drtywiteboy
    12 years ago

    No offense friend. But some of us unwind by cracking jokes and horsing around at our jobs, a happy worker is a hard worker. Not to mention some of us are cautious around the serious, a workplace does not always have to be serious to be efficient. Try joking around with some people. may help. (hope i didn't come off as offensive)

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  • thegift
    13 years ago

    I hope you are surfing on your phone. This website isn't exactly "work safe" if you know what I mean.

    anyway, I feel you. I don't care much for hanging out with my coworkers either.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Eh, you're there to work.. not socialize so maybe you can consider it a blessing that you're kept out of the office drama.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    are you surfing the internet at work? if so, shouldnt you be working instead? its fine to look for people at work to be friends with but it can also complicate things because if you have a falling out then your workplace will become uncomfortable unless you can keep it professional. try looking for friends on "dating" sites and just put that you are looking for friendship and im sure someone will like your profile and will want to be friends. its also fun to make jokes at work, it helps break the monotony of working and helps the day go faster. try finding things in common with the people you work with or ask to go out for a drink after work one night.

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  • Psychosocial
    13 years ago

    yeah- I mean , how serious are you, if you surf @ work? Relax and hang out.

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  • MyHazelLabyrinth
    12 years ago

    focus on the present

    leave the past in the past

    these are new people, new situations,

    don't let the bad experiences shape you

    take a risk
    and all will be good

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