I am a boy not entertained by the idea of cheating

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I am somewhat young (20) and have been in a relationship for a couple of years now. The idea of cheating has never even crossed my mind. I flirt with other girls, joke around, drink with them, w/e...but the traditional male conquest needs and all the other million reasons men cheat has never once appealed to me. It is just too easy to cheat, I know it won't fulfill me in the end, and seems pointless to actually go down that road. I just read an article recently on how to develop an anti-cheating "toolbox" that you can call upon when you are tempted and thought it was the most insane thing ever. Help...?

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  • justadude247
    15 years ago

    You are very lucky to meet someone you love at a young age. most people do not, so they end up cheating. If your girlfriend make you feel that good, DONT EVER CHEAT ON HER!!! It will take you years to find someone like her again. Sluts come around everyday. Just ask your friends that want you to cheat. They probaly do not have a good girl like you so they are sleeping with the sluts. Don't give in to them unless you want to be like them.

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  • JoeyAnne
    15 years ago

    so whats the problem hun?

    you want help to feel satisfied when you cheat?

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    • lovequestions
      14 years ago

      Haha no I just have trouble relating to my friends when they talk about hooking up with other girls that they aren't dating and stuff like that. I want to understand but I just can't see the "cheater's" perspective, ya know?

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  • bdk61950
    11 years ago

    She must be good in the sack.
    Plus, I find that cheating only makes you call out a name that may or may not lead to the removal of your genitalia.

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  • JMan_82
    12 years ago

    I think I see what you mean. You want to understand the attraction in cheating? Is that right? As you yourself have never felt the need, you want to know why others do feel the need. I can't answer that. I myself have never cheated, but have often wondered what makes people cheat, and for each person that does there are various reasons that made it seem like a good idea at the time ranging from issues, sexual or emotional, with their current partner, to simply wanting to bang as many people as they can while still maintaining a pseudo relationship to feel like they are normal. Hope that helps a little.

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    I agree, more men should be like you.

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  • kellstar
    13 years ago

    I believe I've only had one boyfriend (and they've been many since my teens till now) that didn't cheat so good on you! Should be mire like y out there!

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  • so_damn_unpretty
    13 years ago

    You are normal. Not all guys struggle and feel the need to cheat, although many do. Your just one of those rare guys who are true,, faithful and gentlemanly. A real man. your girlfriend is lucky to have found you. You rock, don't change.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    If you would never cheat you are part of the 5% of men that wouldn't.

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  • southernbarbie16
    13 years ago

    You shouldn't cheat even if it sounded appealing to you. Stay committed and keep this girls trust.

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  • Kassidy363
    14 years ago

    Nothing wrong with that. If only there were more guys like that.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    You are over thinking a non-issue.

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  • lovequestions
    14 years ago

    I am worried I am going to get blindsided though somehow :-/

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  • alzy19
    14 years ago

    I feel the exact same way. Nothing feels right. Society is so contrived and I can't understand anything.

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    • alzy19
      14 years ago

      Oops. I botched the previous comment because I couldn't keep track of my tabbed windows. I think your view on this subject is very admirable and your girlfriend is very lucky.

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  • cool59
    14 years ago

    Thanks God there are guys like you;) Just keep at it. I guess that's perfectly normal and an indication of a good healthy relationship.

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  • Stryker
    14 years ago

    You sound like an admirable guy, and remind me of my boyfriend, but I always ask him this and NEVER get a straight answer - do you feel attracted to other girls?

    I mean obviously you do, it's completely normal for humans to be attracted to a good looking person. But I honestly don't look at "attractive" guys and think "oh he's fine" or even get that feeling, like you want to know more about them...
    maybe I'm just weird too.

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    • lovequestions
      14 years ago

      I meet other girls, and if we are compatible think that maybe we would be good together, but it stops there. I guess it is a form of attraction. But that is where it stops. I have no motivation to pursue anything else, even when things aren't going well with my sig. other.

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  • ZiShu
    14 years ago

    I dont see the problem here, are you tired of "not cheating" and want to cheat?
    I myself hate cheating, it's betraying someone close to you. If you know its wrong and love your girl, just don't do it. Stay away from temptation. The only girl you should be around msot of the time is your girlfriend. Keep positive energy around you and her, and hopefully you both will always please each other.

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    • lovequestions
      14 years ago

      The problem is that I am a philosophy/psychology nerd who gets bothered when I can't understand or see both sides of an argument. I just want to be able to understand where some of my friends are coming from when they talk about their struggles to remain faithful...

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  • Jim_Pfoss
    15 years ago

    I don't understand your use of the word "cheating." If no one is married, it's just fornicating, and if you don't want to do it, don't.

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    • lovequestions
      15 years ago

      To me cheating is not being faithful to my girl, married or not. And I know I am not going to do something that I don't want to do, that's not the problem; I just want to know if I'm normal b/c it seems that the pressure to "cheat" brings down a lot of relationships on the male side

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