I am 19 and have never been kissed/asked out. is it normal?

Woooooow never seen this posted before on here.............

Join the club.

Chill, hunny, things will come in a natural way. Just try being more simplistic, you describe a deeply disciplined, competitive, high-aiming and great expecting type of character, which might be the barrier between you and relationships/dates... Men usually like to be "in charge", to feel that they got the whole situation in their hands, so your strong and unique personality might "threaten their superiority" and scare them off! Go easy on them and you'll have your dates in no time! ;)

I was close to your predicament.. I had my first kiss at 18. I felt like a loser before then... but I was also the same way.. I was considered "one of the boys" and I just wondered if there was something wrong with me.

My advice? Find a guy that you think is boyfriend material.. someone you actually want to date. Become his friend (if not already) and just be a friend. Subtly express some romantic interest in him and see if he bites back. Or you could even tell him that you fancy him. But at the same time, remind him that you're always a friend for him.

Do this and everything will be fine.
How do I know?
Cuz this is EXACTLY what I did and now I've got an AMAZING boyfriend and soon-to-be fiance'

You seem a little full of yourself

Show a girly side of you. I'm in a similar situation. I have tons of guy friends but no one has ever asked me out. Everyone knows that I don't want to date till college so they are all backing off and just being friends. The first thing you should do is wait till you like someone. It's pointless to just go out with someone that you don't like. Once you like a guy then show him and maybe be more vulnerble. I'm sure the guys have thought about you. They probably think your too good for them. You also seem very busy. Maybe a boyfriend isn't the right thing for you now. They cause a lot of heartache and are way too good to be true. Good luck! Don't think too much! Life really isn't so bad!

Just be who you are girl. Just be who you are.

"can compete against them"

The nub of the problem.

Totally normalll! Trust me

Wanna go out?

If I were you well maybe you should ask him out :) might work out perfectly and those strong standing girls turn guys on! !! I'm sorry if my advice doesn't work but I'm sure it will get you more guys and that first kiss but I'm already 12 and have been asked out 4 times my advice works

I definitely agree with some of Rubycane's views but disagree with having to dumb yourself down. Anyway you're like alpha woman - and I think that's awesome - women should aspire to be like that! I know I do, I admire that. Thank god the 1950's are over. I definitely don't want to be a brainless doormat with no personality. Honestly that guy that told you that guys consider you to be in the friend zone because you're 'one of the guys' is a tool. If guys can't like you for who you are then why should you change? Blah. C'est la vie!

Honestly guys are probably intimidated by you! Don't let that worry you, I know it sucks right now (and might not reassure you) but a good guy that you like will come your way soon. Guys (and girls) at your age can be quite immature. I've been there too! Don't settle either - respect yourself - you're better than that.

Go out, flirt with guys, drink a little and kiss someone! My first kiss was when I was 14. Actually. And it was when I was going out for the first time.

Hey, I just turned 24 and I've never been kissed/asked out :D
...Maybe I shouldn't have written that- I'm sure there's going to be some new thread starting about whether I'm normal or not.

Based on your description of yourself, it sounds like you have pretty high standards for yourself and you're goal oriented. I think a lot of guys might think you're too good for them or something like that. So yes, a little intimidated by your successes, but at the same time, I think it's better to be without a significant other if you'd have to change in any way for them.

Loneliness might bite a little now, but trust me, it's way better to be comfortable with yourself and to explore your personal abilities and interests than devote yourself to someone else and never get to really know yourself. I know quite a few people who have rushed into marriages/relationships without building themselves, first, who would do anything to be in your position now :)

Come on you guys , this one isn't that normal.

If you are decent / good looking , then it's your personality. Ask your closest friends to be completely honest with you. Find out what's wrong , and alter it. If you really want guys attention in a sexual way.

Same with me, im 18 im fucking sexy,i have nice body, muscular since i work out, academic too, and i never had a girlfriend b4.I didnt have them just cz i dont have money D: i never got a job.

*Therefore, most guys see as girls golddiggers :P, prove them not and u might get

Maybe you need to take aggressive proactive measures to hop over the barrier if you will. Things you may not feel comfortable doing. But once you're over it you'll handle the situation more naturally. Go to a club where the rest of the college girls go to get dick, don't be picky, yes that club that you're thinking "no way, definitely not", go there and start rubbing your ass on random men. Sooner or later one of them will say "hey, want to come over to my place?"... the natural answer is: "definitely not you perv"... instead say: "yeah, sounds like fun, and smile". Follow him, get fucked, beg for his number, and try to tag along behind him for a few days. I realize you may think this is retarded, but I guarantee it'll change things for you. Oooopen your miiiiiind.

people who think they don't have to ask people out to get dates

Hahahahaha

No offensive but I think there is more to your problem than you have stated here. I know the % of those thinking this is normal is high but I disagree. If you really are attractive with a good personality someone would have asked you out by now. Do you live in a small town maybe? Maybe they are intimated by you but even then some douchebag who thought he was all that would have asked you out by now. I don't know what you are doing wrong but I certainly don't think this is normal. Maybe you should do the asking out ;)

Maybe ur not doing something right...

is it because you're ugly