I always quit contact with almost every guy i meet

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This is very weird and i asked myself a hundred times, is it normal? Every time i meet a guy and i think -hey, he´s cute- after a while "dating" or more get to know him, i always quit contact. If i have the feeling its getting closer i get scared even though i want a boyfriend. I never had one because of this strange sickness feeling i always get after a while. It dosen´t matter how good looking or nice they are, i can´t take it more than a couple of weeks. If i notice weaknesses about them i quit it. Even though i have weaknesses or are insecure by myself. I absolutely don´t know what to do. I have many guy friends and they see me as just a friend and i feel comfortable with that i can take their insecurities and all their strange behavior but if they would be interested in me in a relationship kind of way, it would scare the hell out of me and i would judge them for doing it. What is going on with me?

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    Not normal but more common than you think, you can learn to change when on day you meet the right one, till then the problem may be the ones you seek out

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  • ohplease
    11 years ago

    Bang a promising one, his flaws will probably be diminished afterwards and you'll feel better.

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  • AngelUnderCover
    11 years ago

    Its okay. This is not exactly normal but not really abnormal. You just need to give them a chance and maybe this is a heads up to you that maybe that guy is not in your cards.

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  • la_uva_mojada
    11 years ago

    This is ur emotional baggage manifesting itself. It's involuntary. U probably need to talk to a therapist to get it worked out.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    coz your scared they might leave you?

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  • forever_anon
    11 years ago

    Not normal, but understandable if you've been hurt in a previous relationship. Maybe someone you loved and depended on before (whether it was a love interest, parent, or somebody else) let you down, and that would make you afraid to commit. Also, it could be that you are dating men who aren't ideal boyfriends, like ygrowup said. You may sense that they're unreliable and so to protect yourself, you avoid getting close.

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  • sYki
    11 years ago

    Your not ready for a serious commitment in fears that if you did commit and got older with this guy that you will feel regret that you didnt live it up enough when you where younger and miss out on that part of your life.

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