I always feel as if i have missed something important in life.

Actually, I think you're just depressed. It's possible that your wife suddenly went evil and made it her goal to make you miserable, but it seems more likely that you're just perceiving her normal behaviors as persecutory.

It might be a good idea to consider talking to someone about it- many employers offer an "Employee Assistance Program" that'll give you a certain number of free appointments for various types of therapists, and I think they often have phone-therapists to whom you can talk anytime.

Alternatively, get you some hair plugs and a Porsche and ride that midlife crisis to the finish, baby.

I know what you mean so well...Its exactly how i feel..I know I should feel content with my life..but to be honest just like you said..i just feel empty...i constantly feel like there is more to life and im missing out on things but i have no idea what those things that would make me happy are... frankly nothing so far amuses me in life...it is so exhausting to spend every second of my life thinking im missing out on stuff but not having a clue what it is. at least you have kids though.that must give a meaning to life..

Are u in love with someone? Then something happened and both of u split

sounds like you need some hobbies or something more exciting in your life.. meet new people. i hate ruitines in my life aswell and it makes me feel the same i guess

Yeah - what's going on between you & your wife that you are so unhappy with? Look at that, and what you both can do to improve things. You've built your lives together around each other & been pretty successful about it. So what d the 2 of you need to bring some joy into your lives again?

What PiAnt said. You can't always rely on others for happiness -- you just have to find happiness wherever you can in life, be it through hobbies or creating art or going for walks or sports or hanging out with friends or whatever.

I think it's normal to think about "what could have been", but doing so will do you no good. All you can do is live life to the fullest while you still can, and take every great opportunity that you can.

Looks more like something has been lost, rather than something you never had.

Have you considered that this may well be as good as it gets? That there is no more so you'd better make the most of it while you can?

It's not your wife's job to "make you happy". It is your job to be happy because she is merely there. Has the thought occurred that she, too, is also unhappy? Living with and raising the children of a guy who isn't happy about it?

From your words, I would imagine a lot of people would be envious of your position.

Maybe you should see what you have for what it is and not what you think it should be.

And hug your wife.

I know this may not be the place to say this but I couldn't help thinking it when I came across your story. I'm a Christian and I believe that God made everyone of us with a desire to be with him in our hearts. I also believe that when we feel empty, that this is him prompting us to look for him. Often we try and fill that emptiness with other people, money, food, tv, alcohol, drugs, anything but I believe that the only way to feel whole is to start to get to know him through his word and his son Jesus. I've often felt how you have, especially after my father passed away, and I've found that just picking up a bible and reading some of the New Testement really helps me to feel whole again. It's your choice ultimately, but I think it would really help you.