I’m never approached first. iin?

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My favorite thing to do is go somewhere alone and meet new people, I love to initiate conversation with strangers. I’m an introverted 20 year old girl. When I approach men first they always bite the line back and seem happy and flattered when I talk to them, excited too. But, I’m incredibly lonely, I lost my friends because I got a new job, and the past men that I did meet from approaching myself, ended up being the biggest douche bags I ever met and would mooch off of me like no tomorrow as if I’m trying to win them over or something or owe them in a strange way. Because of this ive given up trying. But I don’t know how to meet people now. I noticed I’m NEVER approached first. People never come up to me and talk to me like I do. It’s not that I expect it I just don’t get it. I have a bad resting bitch face and as I’ve said I’m introverted and quiet. So I wonder if I’m just intimidating? Either way I know a majority of people think I’m attractive because they tell me, but why does nobody talk to me then or try to initiate conversation? It’s really frustrating.

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private3

4 years ago

You can blame feminism for this. Guys are too scared to approach girls nowadays in case they get called a 'creep'.

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controversy

4 years ago

post pix for expert advice. it is possible that they don't find you attractive.

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- FromTheSouthWeirdMan
  
  4 years ago
  
  Even if I didn't find a girl attractive I'm not gonna ask her to pay and fold my laundry. She's running into guys at the bottom of the barrel. She needs to learn how to get early vibes from them so she can weed through the low lifes.
  
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- CapriSun
  
  4 years ago
  
  Plus the point isn’t that I want everybody to think I’m hot. Lol
  
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- CapriSun
  
  4 years ago
  
  Lol I know I’m attractive. I have nothing to prove, Its not even because I love how I look it’s just that people tell me a lot
  
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jethro

4 years ago

You can thank the #metoo movement for that. You reap what you sow.

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- FromTheSouthWeirdMan
  
  4 years ago
  
  Thats a stupid comment (you reap what you sow). Just being female doesn't make her responsible for the MeToo movement.
  
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  - jethro
    
    4 years ago
    
    Yes it does. If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      Hahaha oh the irony of bashing sexism with sexism
      
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      - jethro
        
        4 years ago
        
        Hey don't go dredging up an ancient post just to try to breathe new life into it. It just shows how self centered you are and most likely the root cause of you problem. People have moved on so why don't you do the same. And before you make a misandristic comment by calling me sexist, look into the mirror first. See you next Tuesday.
        
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notsure4sure

4 years ago

I agree with private3 , in this PC world we live in fear of being the creepy guy and a girl with RBF, forget about it, girls literally have to make the first move nowadays and be very obvious and direct or we will just be polite and say bye, thankfully there’s is internet dating so you can say what you actually want or no one would be dating, PC ruined the world

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SunSnow

4 years ago

Hey... U same minded people become friends.
If u approach random guys group then they will take advantages of you.

You are attractive. you'll get a good response from guys just don't let them use u.
It's 2019 no one give value to stranger they call them creep. Stalker etc.
so u can either join a social group or hangouts in club. Wear gorgeous dress some shine thats it.
U have to make first move then wait for their if no response come leave it. Find other.

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d0esnormalmatter

4 years ago

Yeah girls don't get approached by guys much anymore. Pornography, among other things, has guys losing confidence and motivation to meet women and also our progressive society is starting to look down on it more. So many people nowadays think it's super misogynistic.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  I don’t get why. And I watch porn but that wouldn’t stop me from talking to people... it’s not about me looking for a boyfriend just a friend or anything.
  
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  - d0esnormalmatter
    
    4 years ago
    
    Yeah well even if someone isn't looking for a sexual partner, if they approach the opposite sex alone, that's what everyone is going to think anyways.
    
    So if you as a girl approach a guy one on one just wating to be friends, hes going to think your at least somewhat interested. That's just how it is.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      Yeah I figured, sucks pretty bad. Oh well ig
      
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      - d0esnormalmatter
        
        4 years ago
        
        Yeah I mean there isn't much you can do. Most people who approach the opposite sex are interested so you can't expect them to think differently.
        
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RoseIsabella

4 years ago

You might wanna slow your roll there, girl. Also, I would be wary of anyone who asks for money. Don't be in a rush to have boyfriend, and certainly don't date anyone who has money problems, or asks for money.

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- CapriSun
  
  4 years ago
  
  Btw have a happy birthday
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    4 years ago
    
    Thanks!
    
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  They don’t ask for money initially they just would mooch off me. Like invite me out and then expect me to pay for them, or ask me to buy them stuff when I’d get nothing in return. One guy on our first date even asked if id fold his laundry for him. It’s not that I’m looking for a boyfriend, it’s a lot easier to meet and make friends with guys than girls as a girl. And I only bring up people thinking I’m attractive because I’ve always felt that usually guys or people tend to approach attractive people first or show they’re interested in a way. But yet I’m always on the lookout, I feel really alone and it sucks it has to be so hard to meet someone new
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    4 years ago
    
    I get what you're saying sugar, and I know that it sucks, but I think you should tell these deadbeat losers that you have no money, and that you're not in the mood to fold laundry. These jerks are wasting your time, money, effort and emotions, dear heart.
    
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    - leggs91200
      
      4 years ago
      
      Rose come on, women don't like to be called "sugar", that is sexist. They prefer to be called "pumpkin tits".
      
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  - FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    
    4 years ago
    
    You will have better luck eventually. Those guys sound like swindlers. If they don't pay for your meal something is up. It sounds like you have been taken advantage of by them. Not all guys are like that. Maybe you're looking for guys at the wrong places...
    
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