I’m confused about dating..

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I’ve only just started dating this year... I’m 24 and not done anything with a boy. Okay I can check the kissing box off... I’ve dated 3 guys so far this year. The first one I really liked could call it my first time feelings took some getting over actually. The second I liked a lot too, but I felt stronger from the previous hurt. The third wasn’t really for me. I’ve been on the dating site for a while and a lot are after a hook up, or a friend with benefits. I’ve never really been like that. Anxiety and shyness are my worst traits... so being around people is a massive thing for me, being close with a boy is a massive thing for me... I want it to be special the first time, but so many people are wanting fun... I’m scared if i wait much longer no one will want me... or I’ll regret not going with a few men?? I don’t know but my head is a bit of a mess right now.

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  • Tato
    5 years ago

    Don't push yourself to date just for the sake of it.
    It's apparent, from your post, that you're looking for something serious, if I got it right, so don't rush it.
    I could be wrong, but it's better to be cautious than regret welcoming a bad relationship, or an empty one. Ofc, you needn't worry, there are plenty of good guys out there.

    About your shyness, try and act the way you want to be. Fake it till you make it, as they say. Act confident and that's what people gonna get from you. From my own experience, it's obviously gonna get awkward sometimes, but you can always readjust, if that makes sense. In time you'll start feeling like it's a second nature.

    Hope it helps. Good luck.

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    • lc1988
      5 years ago

      I agree! I actually met my husband online 5 years ago. He actually messaged me first, we talked for a week not only about things we did throughout the day but what we were looking for in a partner...then we met and haven't looked back since. Best of luck to you and don't feel like you need to settle...if it says they're looking for fwb or whatever, move on!

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  • rivalnegro97
    5 years ago

    Be real, fate isn't real, if you want to have a partner, be calm, relax, take a time then go for it, easily, don't push it too hard, Bc there isn't destiny or some shit to back you up

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    I live by the Tina Turner song, "What's love got to do with it?" I'm using my "assets" while I can and enjoying every second of it!

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  • TS
    5 years ago

    Step 1: Get off of the dating site. You aren't going to find what you're looking for there.

    Step 2: Remember to be patient. Put yourself in a worry-free frame of mind.

    Step 3: Make sure you're in good physical shape. If you're chubby then start jogging or something.

    Step 4: Join a club, go to a dance, walk up to people you don't know and introduce yourself. Get out there and socialize with healthy, normal people (and not the desperate dregs of society who need to troll dating sites for other lonely losers because they don't know how to make friends IRL). The right guy will turn up when you put yourself in the right settings.

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