I’m annoyed with my relationship... help

So. Yes it’s me again. Anyways, I’ve been dating my bf for a year now. When I met him he didn’t have a job, and now he still doesn’t have a job. He’s 27, I’m 19. We’re both still in school but I have a job... I’m getting annoyed because I want a happy future with him and I’m not sure what he wants to do with his life. He says he wants to get a degree first before he goes out and looks for a job but idk.

His mom gives him $500 a week, and he blows it on weed and eating out constantly. His place is a mess, and he calls me mean names when he’s “sleep deprived”

He has recently been withdrawing from kratom... which is causing him to be irritable and mean

I want a good life with him, but I get annoyed. I still love him and don’t wanna leave him. And I don’t know how to tell him this without flipping out or taking it too personally

None of my family like him bc he doesn’t have a job.

Basically, he’s a ex drug addict, who doesn’t have a job, lives off his parents whom live on the other side of the country, is still in UNI, doesn’t clean up his place and blows his parents money on weed that she doesn’t know about. Idk what to do... I want him to be motivated! He does well in school. But he’s lazy. I’m scared. I just feel stuck