I’m a terrible person

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I’m 19 and I’m addicted to sex. I don’t know exactly how it started, I lost my virginity when I was 14 to a very controlling person who pressured me that he would break up with me if I didn’t do it. Afterwards he became abusive, physically, mentally. Whenever he wanted sex he had to get it from me or else he would threaten to get it from somewhere else. When I finally got enough sense to get out of the terrible relationship. I just started having more sex partners. I’d be in a relationship and begin cheating, even though I liked the guy so much. If someone made me feel bad for not having sex I feel like I need to do it. I stopped dating because I knew it wasn’t fair and I wasn’t ready. I finally settled down with this lovely guy who treats me like a queen. But, someone is trying to get me in their bed. I turned down the offer but now I feel bad. I would never want to hurt my boyfriend. But I have this thing where I don’t want to let people down either, including when they want sex with me. It’s a bad way to live. Is it normal to feel the need to make everyone happy even if it means having sex with them to make them feel better?

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    4 years ago

    No you shouldn't feel like you have to make everyone happy and you shouldn't feel guilty for refusing to do something you don't want to. Maybe you should get in touch with a rape crisis or domestic abuse centre, it sounds like everything you went through when you were being abused is still badly affecting you.

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  • CountessDouche
    4 years ago

    I don't see you being addicted to sex from this post. I don't see you seeking sex or getting anything out of sex with people other than your partner. I do see that you struggle with saying no when it comes to pleasing others & getting reinforcement from other people. Either way, you have a need that's not being met, and if you do seek to meet that need it will only be temporary & will destroy something that does make you happy. That's a classic sign of destructive behavior & it will eat at you unless you get some help & figure out why you feel this way.

    Cliche, but I'd recommend some therapy, dude. Don't destroy the good things you have in your life.

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  • cipro
    4 years ago

    If your guy is treating you as "queen", then the relationship is doomed to fail.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Wasn’t the point of the post and it’s a metaphor.

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Your not a terrible person just because you did terrible things in the past. Now it looks to me like you are having a very hard time with monogamy, and it may be that your trying to force it. A lot of younger people with poor self control and or high sex drives struggle with monogamy so you may be better off waiting until your older to pursue one partner and eventuall marriage and a family. So you basically have three options.

    1. You can stick with your pursuit of monogamy and not cheat by using sheer will power and growing closer to your one partner.

    2. You can use the mask of monogamy with your S/O but continue to cheat as you have in the past. That is a very terrible and selfish thing to do.

    3. You could push monogamy to the back of your mind and instead get your fill of sex without the constraints of monogamy.

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