I ******* hate my boyfriends, brothers - girlfriend.

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My boyfriend and his brother are a year apart. My boyfriends brother is dating a girl that I use to know in high school; However, I never hung out with her because she was heavy into drugs. Later on in life, I did become friends with her through mutual friends (she became clean and broke up with her boyfriend, and has no family so she needed some other people to use- until she found my boyfriends brother), only to find out that she was a pathological liar, resulting in me ending the friendship as well as all my other girl friends ending their friendships with her. NOW she's over my boyfriends house all the time, sleeping there, eating there, bonding with family and the thing that urks me the most is her lies. She says things to kiss up to their mother that are just so made up, it fucking boggles my mind. I use to speak my mind about her bothering me, but that only results in my boyfriends brother being mad, my boyfriend being sad and me having a God damn headache. I wish I could record her whinny voice spewing lies and endless drama and show you all. I woke up this morning in my boyfriends house, to find out that her brother that works 9-5 left for work while she layed in his bed all day. And their mother brought her tea! We can't even hang out with my boyfriends brother, who btw is a very social person, because she doesnt let him go out of her sight, non-the-less if we did ever go out she would fight with him and make the situation totally awkward. ALSO i'd like to add.. My boyfriends brother had a drug problem, she knew 4 months before anyone else and still went and got high with him, but HIS PARENTS THINK SHES SUPPORTIVE AND HELPFUL TOWARDS HIM. Im literally at the point where I don't want to go to their house anymore, I don't want to be involved with their family anymore, and I don't want to be around my boyfriend anymore. Is this normal?

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  • Tommythecat.
    10 years ago

    Just ignore her.

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  • Acerbic
    10 years ago

    It's normal that you feel the way you do, but her behavior definitely isn't. It's unfortunate that your boyfriend's brother is with her, but there's not really much you can do. I wish there was because it is very frustrating to know that someone (or in this case, a whole family) is being used or manipulated, but I doubt it will last that long. People like that generally can't keep up their game for very long before people start getting suspicious and catching on.

    I disagree with highrider- I don't think you should try to record her and show the family and you've obviously tried telling them and they didn't listen, which is typical. Manipulative people are just that; manipulative. They're very good at getting people to trust them and explaining things away. In the very probable case that the family dismisses it, you'll end up looking like you're trying to cause trouble and the girlfriend will have it out for you from that point on.

    In the meantime, the only thing you can do is try to keep your distance from her, which I realize may be difficult in this situation. Maybe hang out with your boyfriend at your house more or go out together while she's there. If all else fails, like Tommythecat said, you can at least try to ignore her or tolerate it for the time being.

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  • SvenTheBold
    10 years ago

    This is a 100% normal response to this kind of 100% not-normal behavior.

    If you can *prove* that she's done something mean or nasty, catch her in a lie or video her acting up, then it might be good to show the evidence to your boyfriend, so that he can at least know for sure why you don't like her. He'll know his family; he can say whether it'd be good to show his parents. (I'd overall advise against going to the parents, but he might feel differently.)

    The biggest thing to do would be to try to ignore her or put the differences beside you. Try not to give up on the whole family unless you really, truly, can't handle it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    stand back and let her ruin it for herself , youll be there with no crap on you when its over

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  • TheGodThatFailed
    10 years ago

    Damn thats a lot of text.

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  • highrider
    10 years ago

    Record her being a bitch, and then show it to your bf first, and see what he thinks. If its super bad like she says she doesn't care about anyone not even her boyfriend, show it to your bf and your gfs bro at the same time. Otherwise just ignore her sorry ass

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