Husband wont do or say anything about daughter being around sex

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ok. heres my question. my husband and i hav been together 6 yrs, married 4 months. he has a daughter from a previous marriage. she is suppose to live with bio mom but lives with grandma. she has told us twice now that her grandma puts her hands down her pants. (her own pants) she is doing the same thats why we asked her why she is doing this. the first time she told us she was 4. she is now 9 and still does it and tells us the same story. her father asked her gma about it the first time and she denied it but looked guilty as all getout! he dropped it and never spoke a word of it again. she told us again and he still does nothing. i want to go to dhs but should i? wut should a stepmom do in this case? any advice is very much appreciated.

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  • sparrowfeed
    13 years ago

    LOL. well, to be fair, some people start masturbating horrifically early..

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  • Melloman#2
    13 years ago

    YOUR HUSBAND IS A PUSSY!

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  • GreenStranger
    13 years ago

    Ask the little girl, kids are sometimes too honest.

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  • lifeisfree
    13 years ago

    What the fuck do you think you do???
    She was FOUR when she told you about this?
    Now she's NINE... you let five years go by without questioning her about it?

    If you would have taken care of the situation early on you could have saved her from possibly being sexually molested.

    Either way, talk to the grandmother some more or report to authorities... but get that child out of that house FOR SURE.

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  • bloodyvaginalbelch
    13 years ago

    Go report to the authorities.
    One day you are going to have your own kids with this man if you dont already. And if they are abused by someone would you be okay with your husband saying nothing.
    It sounds like a cry for help from the little gir.
    As a stepmother, woman and human being if you can please get her help.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Go to DHS, get you husband on board here. Its in everyone's interest.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Wait so the grandma is touching herself?! Not normal, don't let the kid go there until she stops the behaviour.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Lol gross masturbating granny

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  • viper305
    13 years ago

    You better, else you might as well put a pole up in her room for her 13th birthday.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    It would be very hot if the grandma and granddaughter masturbated each other

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  • mayadukkha
    13 years ago

    No matter what,you hv to advocate for this little girl. I don't really understand why ur husband doesn't hv custody of her, if the moms absent why hasn't he stepped in. But I digress. What the grandmother is doing is, just gross, it's not necessarily abuse. If ur concerned, which you say you are, then start talking. Talk to her, ur step daughter, REALLY talk to her. Then go talk to ur husband til he hears u. But please get that kid out of there.

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  • LittleLover
    13 years ago

    i dont get it do you mean the granny purts her hand down the girls pants, the granny puts her hands down her own pants (the granny's pants)

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  • bleach_baby
    13 years ago

    What the hell, go to the authorites about what? It seems you are saying this girls grandma puts her hands down her own pants, not down the childs, and doing this in front of a child absent mindedly is not abuse? Lots of kids go through a genital-centric phase, just tell her not to do it in front of other people

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  • Missy21
    13 years ago

    I would get her out of the house straight away this is not normal

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  • ferro
    13 years ago

    This is the man you picked and when you married him.... you married the entire family. If you plan to have children with him you need to act on this issue now, as for your children not to be hanging around a "fast" older half sister that's picked up grandma's perverted habits. If you report this to child protective services, the child may be uprooted to an outside home if you and your husband are not willing to take her in. If you don't plan to have kids with him, don't worry about it.

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  • y007steph
    13 years ago

    You should tell this girl that it is not really nice when she is rummaging between her legs when others are present. Of course, tell this with empathy. Even, when you are tete-a-tete with her, you may initiate a talk about her motivations. Excessive masturbation, or just touching ourselves may be a sign of certain inner tension or insecurities.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I'm confused slightly, did the girl say her grandma put her hands down her (meaning the girls) pants?

    Or that the girl put her hands down her own pants?

    If it's the first, report immediately, never mind who she is.

    Second, fairly normal, curiosity.

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