Husband wife relationships.

I was reading some of the comments, and frankly it sounds like you happy with things the way they are ;P But if you feel like in important figth or situations your point ins't getting through, talk to her. Tell her what she's doing and that your point isn't getting across. Gl to you

I kind of understand where you're coming from. I know what the silence is about, you just don't want to communicate with her any more because the way she treats you and your views is with no respect at all, right? I've been there. If there's no respect then it's not worth prolonging the relationship, having said that it's exactly what I've done myself over the last 15 years but I had kids to think of and I have to provide a roof over their heads and food for them to eat, make sure they a cared for emotionally and financially. That's the job of a husband and father I can hear you all saying, but when it has to be done simultaneously with a wife who is a complete bastard, i.e. has an affair and gets pregnant, has the abortion (I know she had the abortion, I took her to the clinic), I don't know who the father was but I'm pretty sure it wasn't me. She doesn't make meals for our kids, doesn't get the youngest up for school. Every chance she gets she verbally abuses me, she will verbally abuse me indirectly when she talks to her relatives on the phone or when they are present in a condescending tone loud enough for me to hear and she will do it directly to my face. The woman has no respect for me whatsoever. I had not been able to afford divorce until now so I'm going for it. To justify what I've said here I can tell you that my kids want to stay with me and not with her. If this story is familiar to you and mirrors your own problems then get out of the marriage as soon as you can but I appreciate it's hard to pay for, good luck though.

"duckfart77" 1st off what kind of a name is that? You've probably made this guy feel like an idiot when-- and I hope he reads this-- I don't think he is. Why would you think that anyway? You don't even know him. Youre like those people who hate miley Cyrus without even knowing her at all. Just had to say that.. :P
To the author--- good luck and listen to their advice.

well don't let it get to you. :) It'll be okay .i tjust might be that time but i just remember 2 years? hmm .. well .. you know maybe that's what's gonna happen now .. maybe you just gotta get used to it .. it's normal . it's what yout hink is normal .. do you think it's normal to you? :) but I think it's normal :)

:T i think its a bad idea :T she shouldnt want everything her way she should take u opinions too... ._.; thats not respecting but owelz :[ ithink no dont stay silent, having some fight is prety fun too its normal u guys can talk :< right? iono

Why does it always have to be about who is right! I would think after being married that long and the kids are gone you both could finally do some things that you would like to do together. Marriage is not about fighting or a compitition, it is about choosing to love that person doing what is best for them. I have been married for 17 years we have 2 grown children gone and 2 children still at home, I would never treat my husband like that and if he tried that with me he would be out the door. Good luck!

Unless going silent is just a passive-aggressive thing, maybe you are on your way to a new level in your relationship realizing that petty "win-lose" power struggles are unsatisfying.

Maybe look at going to couples counseling as life-mates to discover new & respectful ways of communicating.

I am sorry but after reading your posts you appear to be VERY unintelligent and I don't mean that to offend you in any way but the way in which you speak and interpret things is clearly not that of a well-educated or well-articulated person. It sounds to me like your wife has had your balls since day 1 and after 27 years it's NEVER going to change if you remain the way that you have been, so you either need to accept that and move on or you need to get your balls back and let your wife know what is going on.

You say that you don't consider divorce because your wife needs you. It sounds more to me that you need her than she needs you considering the only thing you do is provide the money, she controls everything else including where that money goes and what it is spent on. It's almost like you are a baby or young child and that is how she treats you because it is the way you act.

Going silent for days at a time is rather immature and perhaps you have just been depressed for so long that your mind is shutting down (as you stated yourself that you are not articulated enough to win against your wife in a verbal argument). The way BOTH of your views on your relationship has been only goes to show how neither one of you truly understand what it means to be in a HEALTHY relationship. COMMUNICATION, LOVE, DEVOTION, ROMANCE, UNDERSTANDING etc.. are ALL key components to keeping a relationship healthy and happy. I'm sorry to say that it sounds like there are NONE or very few of these aspects in your relationship and probably never have been.

Of course divorce isn't the answer, it's not your wife's fault that you have allowed her to do this to you for so long and she's gotten used to it for so long that she doesn't need to change because things are working out for her just fine.

My best solution for you would be to attempt COMMUNICATING with your wife, let her know what your concerns are without getting into an argument over it (write it in a letter to her if you must to prevent her from rebutting what you have to say and throwing you off-point). Find out if SHE has any concerns or worries or anything that she feels is missing or needed in your relationship. Let her know that the way she uses her superior intelligence against you hurts you and makes you upset and that is the reason you go into these silent-treatment modes for days at a time. If she loves you then she will understand and be willing to work on being a better wife to you and perhaps she can give you some hints on how you can be a better husband and perhaps a better father as well.

Write us on here and let us know what you do and how everything works out :)

I see now that you meant well. Just see how a single word can get interpreted in different parts of the world? I thought being not straight is gay. Gay also means happy as Brothershamass pointed out. Now you tell me Gay also means older.
I have gone into my cocoon for yet another round now. Lets see how it turns out this time.

You see when I said gay i ment older,that's what it means were I come from.Thats life and you probebly like cock now.

And when someone says I have turned Gay I so straight that I understand it as my hair has turned gray.
Thanks for the compliment. My elder son is only 2 years younger than you.
And mind you I propose to continue with the same marriage because I have somehow got used to being married no matter what handicaps it has imposed on me.
And I am glad to announce that the silent spell got broken sometime yesterday noon.
I will announce the arrival of the next silent phase which should be due within a fortnight.

27 years of marriage? I doff my cap to you, good sir. You've been married as long as I've been on the planet - not a trivial achievement.

Yes. Whatever is left of my hair is gray. I should be wiser for my gray hairs - Yes?

you've probably turned Gay after all these years it happens all the time.

She will be happy as long as I don't let her know what I am thinking. But for me it will be just pulling along.

Divorce? At the age of 55? What am I to do after the Divorce? Same thing for her too? What would she do without me?

I think you should get a divorce, your wife sounds like a right manipulative cow.

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