Husband wanks off daily

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My husband admits he wanks off every day, but then he rarely wants sex with me. He says he still loves me and still finds me attractive but he is getting all he needs from satisfying himself. He doesn’t seem to understand when I tell him I’m not getting what I need. I’ve tried talking to him about it and asked him to stop wanking and save himself for me, but he just says he can’t help himself and he’s sorry. This is making me so miserable as once upon a time we had a really great sex life.

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Boojum

2 years ago

As far as I'm concerned, there's nothing wrong with people in relationships masturbating, but that's with the assumption that the other person is getting as much sexual attention as they desire.

In many relationships there's a mis-match in the amount of sex each of the people wants, and masturbation is a harmless way to reduce the sexual tension of the person with the higher libido. But if a person is in a long-term relationship, their primary sexual connection should be with their partner, not their hand and PornHub.

The situation you describe isn't good and I suspect it doesn't bode well for the long-term viability of your marriage. Not so much because your husband is getting himself off per se, but because he's apparently refusing to consider your needs and he's not interested in trying to satisfy them and keep the sexual side of your marriage alive.

As for him saying he "can't help himself", I call bullshit on that. I suppose it's possible that he might have a brain tumour or some other medical condition that has destroyed his self control, but it's far more likely he simply doesn't give a shit about you and he no longer finds you sexually interesting.

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- Somenormie
  
  2 years ago
  
  The other reason why he "can't help himself" is because he finds a cheap excuse to also hide the fact that he goes back on his part when he's sorry. I imagine everytime he's sorry he likely does not mean it.
  
  Things could go ugly with him and the OP.
  
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dirtybirdy

2 years ago

Thank you,but there were several other reasons too, it just drove me crazy about his disgusting anal porn addiction and trying to hide it...he didn't know how to delete his history, and I didn't want to look, but after so long I did. Every time I'd be like how you doinn....he would say he wasn't in the mood or it's too late...meaning he took a shower after work and took care of business.

After I left him then went back, he would try to make up for it every day, and I was like nooope, not in the mood..that went on for a few more years before I finally left him. He had trust and jealousy issues too. No thanks..

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- Shackleford96
  
  2 years ago
  
  Good for you, sticking to your guns like that.
  
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  - dirtybirdy
    
    2 years ago
    
    Hey man! Isn't your birthday coming up? Dec 5th I think???
    
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    - Shackleford96
      
      2 years ago
      
      Yep, still blows my mind when you do that. Lol
      
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      - dirtybirdy
        
        2 years ago
        
        😁 I can't recall how old/young you are, late 20s or very early 30s....I'll be 42 sheesh...but somehow I remember birthdays especially when they are close to mine... 7th
        
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        Shackleford96
        
        2 years ago
        
        Ah, yes! That's right, and sorry I never remember. I'm terrible with birthdays. Are you getting or doing anything special for yours this year? Late 20's or early 30's is correct :)
        
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- 1WeirdGuy
  
  2 years ago
  
  Would it have made it any better if he had a anal porn addiction but also wanted to have sex with you daily?
  
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  - dirtybirdy
    
    2 years ago
    
    Most likely. Im not against porn, I just don't really care for it, or anal sex for that matter. I was working days and nights for a while and I would leave in the evening and sometimes I'd forget something so I'd go back home within a few minutes and he'd be on the computer already.
    
    There was also a period of about 13 months that he didn't have a job and when the cable bill came, there was over $60 of smut that I had to pay for...I was soooo maaaaddddd
    
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    - 1WeirdGuy
      
      2 years ago
      
      Wow wtf, what an asshole
      
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Billy247newaccount_35467829

2 years ago

Get over it🙄

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litelander8

2 years ago

I love watching porn and squishing skittles. But my man and I still have a very active sex life.

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- Shackleford96
  
  2 years ago
  
  Squishing skittles? XD
  
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  - Somenormie
    
    2 years ago
    
    Hey Shackleford haven't seen you commenting in a while.
    
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    - Shackleford96
      
      2 years ago
      
      Hey Somenormie, I'm just checking in now and then. How are you?
      
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      - Somenormie
        
        2 years ago
        
        Doing great, how about you?
        
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        Shackleford96
        
        2 years ago
        
        I'm just ok I suppose. Not really progressing very much it feels like, but I'm not completely drowning either so that's good for now. Is there anything special that's happened in your life recently?
        
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dude_Jones

2 years ago

He's a closet homosexual, who will work hard with you to have a good family. He loves you as a sister. You have a decision to make. None of the alternatives are good. I'm very sorry.

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chewy

2 years ago

May be you're not giving him mind blowing sex.

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randypete

2 years ago

maybe having a good wank is better than having sex with you

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Holzman_67

2 years ago

Yep. Sounds like he was more dishonest and upbehind than honest and upfront

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dirtybirdy

2 years ago

Im so much better off without him. He used to follow me on the down low and insist on coming with me when I took my daughter to her dads house...ugh...jealousy and trust issues. Don't put up with that shit.

When I'd ask him why he doesn't trust me, he'd say I do but I just don't trust everyone else. Biggest bunch of bullshit I've ever heard

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jethro

2 years ago

You never said how old you two are. Maybe he is getting to the point where it isn't as powerful as it once was and he might have other physical issues that some older people get. Like dry orgasms and only being good for once a day. Maybe he is embarrassed that he can't perform like he did in the past but still gets horny. So he "takes care of business" in the shower and sacrifices the other out of embarrassment. Just sayin that's all.

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kinkkink

2 years ago

ask him if you can masturbate with him. you can get off watching each other

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DADNSCAL

2 years ago

You 2 nedd to either get to a marriage therapist or get divorced. It's not healthy.

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dirtybirdy

2 years ago

One of the reasons I left my ex husband

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Shackleford96

2 years ago

It's not normal that he's ignoring your needs. You need to stand up for yourself.

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1WeirdGuy

2 years ago

Maybe he has some kind of fetish that you wont participate in so he jerks off and imagines it.

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techpc

2 years ago

Tell him to read this book. It's probably because of porn ruining his libido.

https://easypeasymethod.org/

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Hookerfall

2 years ago

Lol men are dick thinkers

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idkyourmom27

2 years ago

OI LUV IF U NEED CHEW BE SATISFIED GIMME A CAWL ON THE OL' DOG N' BONE (i asked my british friend for the translation dawg :3)

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