Husband promises change but gets caught again

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My husband has been caught cheating in the past. He claims he can't control himself and it's all bad habits from his terrible first marriage.

Just yesterday we had a long talk about our marriage and he swears he hasn't cheated in over 2 years and has "moved on" from that part of his life. Well, guess what? Yesterday I caught him on another "sex site" (sites that find quick sex partners) again. He just signs onto them but doesn't join.

WTF? He looked me in the eye. On the very day we had a difficult and painful talk (as husband and wife) he turned around and joined another sex site. I don't get it.

Any insights? My jaw hit the floor when I saw the "respond" email on his computer when he left it open to go outside. It's almost like he didn't expect to get the email or he wanted me to see it. I'm lost.

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  • megadriver
    10 years ago

    Divorce. If the guy can't keep it in his pants, he shouldn't have opted for marriage!
    Cheating is one of the worst things!
    He doesn't respect you, he doesn't care what you want and he doesn't deserve you.
    You must be a very nice woman to put up with it.
    But a piece of advice from a man who hates cheating and will never cheat - Divorce that guy!

    I would never cheat. If I am not in a relationship, I can have as much sex as I want. But when I am in a relationship, I stick with my girl.

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  • Agirlsbestfriend.
    10 years ago

    he is a liar and he will always cheat on you, you need to accept that. you should leave him or maybe you can arrange to have him knocked and get life insurance or something, but don't expect him to change. once a cheetah always a cheetah

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  • Diver2
    10 years ago

    He might just want to see if anyone is attracted to him. BTW do you blow him regularly?

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    • mollymae22
      10 years ago

      Yes actually our sex life is regular and good. He is just a liar about "everything" but basically we have a solid friendship and sex life. And yes, I agree. The overweight women he chooses gloat all over him. One "family friend" he "attempted to ruin", was a friend whom everyone would have found out about if he pursued the cheat. I called her! I felt that if it had gone further her husband (who has cancer) would absolutely be crushed.

      Not that I care about the scum who go along with him, I just know that in the end..... I need him LESS!

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  • lostgirl62
    10 years ago

    U DUMP HIS ASS!!!!

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  • Wyomingite
    10 years ago

    I recommend couples' therapy. It sounds like both of you are suffering because of this, and you don't seem to be making a lot of progress just the two of you. An impartial, trained third party could be very helpful.
    If money is a problem, your town probably has a community counseling center that offers services on a sliding scale - so if you're broke, it's only like five bucks a session, etc.
    If the stigma associated with counseling is a problem, remember that your being in therapy is a sign that you are committed to your partner and want it to work, NOT a sign that you are messed up/crazy/doomed to divorce. IF your husband is reluctant, make it clear that you cannot tolerate his behavior, and his promise to fix it alone hasn't worked, so now you need the big guns (the counselor).
    I wish you luck and am very sorry for your pain in what sounds like a VERY painful time. <3

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    • mollymae22
      10 years ago

      I'm going to counseling myself starting this summer. He refuses so "oh well". I have a plan in mind and I will no doubt come out of this intact. At this juncture, I really don't care what he thinks.

      Wierd thing, he joins "Chemistry.com", "Match.com", other wierd sites but doesn't pay to officially join them. He is just always on the prowl.

      Who cares...... when I go I'm talking half!

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  • Cherrybombpieee
    10 years ago

    Dont be fooled gurl once a cheater forever a fucking cheater i call divorce

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Sounds like an interesting guy, bit of a prick though.

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  • Ms.Caffinated
    10 years ago

    Divorce his ass! Once a cheater always a cheater.

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  • JayPr'zBaddest
    10 years ago

    Divorce. What kinda excuse is bad habits from a last marriage?! No excuse for cheating. He obviously doesn't respect you enough to be honest with you.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    He's obviously a sex addict.

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