How would you go about turning a frequent hookup into a relationship?

I'd stop seeing them, and put effort into someone that actually wants to have a relationship with me

u nipped that possibility in the bud when he got the milk for free w/o buying the cow.

Go balls deep

I know this is sort of playing a game, but what about hanging with someone else? The frequent hook-up may get jealous and want you more, or you may find you like the other person.

If he was interested in more, you would know it already, he would be pursuing you.

Knowing how YOU feel is unlikely to change the way HE feels.

I doubt there is any chance of this becoming a relationship.

you can try to change the nature of the relationship but that often ends badly.

if you were happy to accept the terms of the sexuality from the beginning then you will likely seem like a user if you try to go for more intimacy now.

your best bet is to say :

"I have really enjoyed the time we have had, but I want to let you know that I need to start looking for a serious relationships and I probably wont be able to get away with casual friend sex, once I find someone long term.

of course I would hate this to stop, but we can still continue until that happens.

I want you to know that I HAVE NO EXPECTATIONS OF YOU, but at the same time I WOULD NOT RULE ANYONE OUT EITHER
so if you have anything you wanted to say, this would be a good time. otherwise I will just assume there is no change to our situation for the moment"

Unbelievably relavent to my life right now :(

I'm not one to chase. If he wants me he can come and get me and thats it.

This is an old post but a common experience. There's an old expression about not taking the cow when the milks for free - corny but also some truth. I gather by hook up you mean sexual encounters. If you are even going to bother trying to salvage this I say tell him directly: you need to be clear about what you want and that the casual sex ends until there is a real relationship. Like you date, make plans together, develop common interests and friends etc.. But it is doubtful. Problem is getting from being just fuck buddies to building a real relationship. I don't think that will be easy - if possible at all - because you are not there and see no way there despite being intimate. But you have nothing to lose trying I guess.

This is an old post but a common experience. There's an old expression about not taking the cow when the milks for free - corny but also some truth.

I gather by hook up you mean sexual encounters. If you are even going to bother trying to salvage this I say tell him directly: you need to be clear about what you want and that the casual sex ends until there is a real relationship. Like you date, make plans together, develop common interests and friends etc.. But it is doubtful.

Problem is getting from being just fuck buddies to building a real relationship. I don't think that will be easy - if possible at all - because you are not there and see no way there despite being intimate. But you have nothing to lose trying I guess.

I was in a FWB relationship for 6 months. When I finally told him I wanted a relationship, he said he just wanted to play - so I left and didn't talk him.

5 months later he's going above and beyond to get us into a relationship. In the meantime, I've found someone who wanted me in the first place.

Tell him what you want and if he disagrees then you leave. However, don't leave with the intention of making him want you more, leave because you can find BETTER and someone who sees your worth from start, not after sex.