How would you feel if your s/o had a crush on a fictional character?

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Anyone can answer but mostly I would like to hear from guys about girls. that is, if you're a guy and you were in love with a female who is obsessed with certain fictional male characters to the point where she loves them (wanting to hug/kiss them, get dreamy while watching them, collect items of them like stuffed animals to sleep with, look at porn of them, possibly going as far as requesting you to dress up as the character for their fetish, etc.) She knows this is mental and can't ever be real, and she is romantically involved with you. Girls can answer too just change the sexes to your liking.

ps. I am basically that girl, but all the guys who loved me seemed to have no problem with it, although i'd feel kind of bad almost like Im "cheating" on them, except that it's not real... so idk what to think... they would just laugh and think i'm cute and say things like "what if I dress up as so-and-so" to which i respond rather excitedly, and it makes them happy too. is that normal? (pls comment your thoughts)

Wouldn't care 9
i'd think my s/o is mental and break up with them 5
i'd think that's weird but i would still love my s/o 5
I would be jealous of the character 7
I would think it's funny/cute etc. and approve of it (ie. cosplay) 14
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  • Faceless
    9 years ago

    Take a deep breath, now try reality dear. Its seemingly a lot less rewarding, but thats a put on. Always has been.

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  • CalciteQueen
    9 years ago

    As long as you haven't built an altar or something - I'm already in a shits-given deficit, so I can't afford to give many more.

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  • sexyseverus
    9 years ago

    I'd be fine. But maybe I only think that because of the crushes I have on fictional characters...

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I'd think I made a terrible mistake in dating her and that she was a lame ass. I would probably be embarrassed of her foolishness, lose interest in her, breakup and find someone better who's not obsessed make believe bullshit.

    I'm not trying to insult you or hurt your feelings. I'm just being honest.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Meh, it's cool. Most people think that of me, I'm sure.
      ...Was this hypothetical, or do you really swing with the lady types? :o

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        It's hypothetical, as in if I were a dude that's how I'd see it. I'm sure you're a very nice person, but all that stuff is a turn off for me. A guy with those traits is not someone with whom I'd be compatible.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I personally would not like it. Fictional characters, their personas, can be met in reality and that means if you met someone like that I would be cut out because the only thing stopping you from replacing me with such a character is the bar between them existing and them not existing. Like I said people in real life can be very similar to those fictional characters, so I am gambling on if you meet someone who is more like that fictional character than myself. Which is a gamble I wouldn't be willing to make.

    I would want someone that would prefer me over other people, fictional or not. If I'm not as great as someone that doesn't even exist while the risk of you prefering someone more like that character exists, then that would be a deal breaker.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Good point. But what if a major reason to love the character is because they can't exist? You admire them from afar, but actually being with someone substantially similar, would be just weird, because the story the character's personality fits into is too different from reality... If that makes any sense

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        Then I'd still be second place to a false person. I would also then wonder why you do not feel the same about other characters in the same type of story, which then would come back to it being because it is the character's persona in that situation. Which would mean their persona is still a big part, if not the biggest, aspect to your attraction to them, which then can still have that risk of meeting someone like that character's persona.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          I see. I don't really get how real love is any better though, when you can never meet every person in the world, what if there is someone better out there than the person you're in a serious relationship with? Isn't it possible that you'd always be at least 2nd best to a real person somewhere in the world, which you or your s/o may or may not ever meet?

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            But in this case you have already found that type of person, so the chances of that person you are with being the one you will love more are already shown not to be the case.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              9 years ago

              I don't really understand what you mean by this, but I have another hypothetical scenario: What if you are the closest person that exists in reality to this character, and there is no chance of finding someone "better" or more similar than you, just as there would be no chance when it comes to real love vs. similar people in existence? You are pretty much equal to the character, except you have the bonus of being real.

              Also, I hope you didn't think I was actually in a relationship. I never have been. When I said guys that liked me, I mean just that, whom I considered merely for the reason that I want to be "normal" and live in reality rather than fantasy (I did love them, but no one in reality has ever come close to the feelings for fictional characters).

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