How would you feel if your mom tried to abort you?

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I found out a weird family secret, my aunt had a botched abortion in the 70s and they didn't realize it was twins. One survived and when she realized she was still pregnant she couldn't go through with it again and my cousin is that baby. She told me about it cause she's had guilt issues
ever since. She never told her daughter that she almost aborted her or that she had a twin, I'm not sure how to feel cause I never suspected this and it's really weird thinking of my aunt this way. I'm wondering if it's normal I'm shocked and a little mad at her but also feel sorry for her. If this was you how would you feel?

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  • shuttuppnerddplz
    8 years ago

    Honestly I'd be shocked...and wouldn't know what to say. I think I need time to think becuz everytime I see my aunt, she reminds me of the abortion..just my opinion.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Honest answer

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    It just shouldn't be a big deal, IMO. If she loved her child well enough that she felt safe and generally happy growing up, then why would you let some action of hers 8 months before her kid was born bother you?
    And who knows? Perhaps, had your aunt not done that, both children may have died in gestation?
    No good can come of any thoughts about this. Forget it.

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  • KingTermite
    8 years ago

    I didn't read the OP because it looked boring but just going by the subject line, I'd be quite concerned because not only is my mum passed on from this world so she'd be a zombie a retroactive abortion just sounds like a fancy way to say kill me now.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    You're just going to have to live with this because it's not your place to tell the surviving twin.

    All families have secrets but this is a big one which should be kept unless you aunt wants to reveal it further.

    I'm not sure if I understand your actual question: in that situation I wouldn't feel anything because I wouldn't exist. If you mean finding out later on, I have no idea, but possibly grateful I exist

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I'm not saying anything don't worry. I just meant is it normal to be uncomfortable with this.

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        Yeah, that's normal

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  • Parky_Parker
    8 years ago

    I wouldn't exist. So it doesn't really matter. I think my mom wanted to have an abortion with me because she was already pushing 40 when she got pregnant with me. It's nothing personal to be mad about.

    Your aunt's situation is different and I get why the twin that survived might be upset.

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  • MR.SexyJesus
    8 years ago

    I'd say its a bit late don't you think

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  • flamer180
    8 years ago

    People make mistakes.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    8 years ago

    If I did find out that my mom wanted to abort me, I just wouldn't care. She did her best to raise me and that's all that matters. She wanted to abort my younger brother back in the 90's, but decided not to in the end. He doesn't care about it.

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  • mysistersshadow
    8 years ago

    Some days I wish she had.

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    • KingTermite
      8 years ago

      I'm glad she didn't.

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      • mysistersshadow
        8 years ago

        Your a nicer person than you or anyone else gives you credit for.

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        • KingTermite
          8 years ago

          Shush, no one needs to know that. I'm cultivating a certain distant coolness here stop trying to fuck it up.

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          • mysistersshadow
            8 years ago

            Oh whatever.

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  • Thorolf
    8 years ago

    I'd be disappointed that she failed. The world with be better off without me.

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago

      Oh that is really sad. Why do you feel like that about yourself?

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      • Thorolf
        8 years ago

        I'm often criticized for being insecure, emotional, and annoying by virtually everyone. The people I know would be happier if I didn't exist. I have no use, no purpose, no real reason to be here. That's why I'm on this site, I hope to change that by giving helpful advice if I can and make myself somewhat valuable.

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        • Ellenna
          8 years ago

          Do you think those things are true? If not you're mixing with the wrong people and should stay away from them; if it's true, can you change these qualities, maybe with professional help?

          At the very least, try this for at least a week and see if it works: every night when you go to bed and when you wake up in the morning say thank you (not to anyone or anything in particular in my case, but that's your choice) for all the good things you DO have in your life: food to eat; a roof over your head; clean water to drink; no-one's shooting at you ....... you'll get better at it with practice. If you can say it out loud without others hanging shit on you that's even better and writing it down is good too.

          Good luck! You might as well learn to enjoy this world and the only life you'll ever have. You deserve to be happy just as everyone else does

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          • Thorolf
            8 years ago

            Honestly, I don't know if they are right or wrong. I seem normal to myself, but that's not popular opinion. But that's a pretty good idea, actually. I'll give it a shot. Thank you.

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