How would you deal with this?

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I asked out a girl who works at the same shopping centre I work at. She wrote down my number on a piece of paper and said she'd call me. Like a fool I didn't get her number in return. She never called.

I have to walk past her shop everyday in order to get to my shop. For weeks now I've just avoided looking, it's awkward. She sees me though cos her shop/counter faces outward.

Just continue to ignore her and move on	19
Make eye contact and smile	13
Go back and get her number	9
Go in there and have an unrelated conversation to establish friendship	14
Other	3

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Tealights

7 years ago

Move on.

If she really liked you, she would have called within the next few days, or at least tried to make conversation with you since she sees you everyday.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Yeah I tend to think the same, which is why I've been just trying in my own way to respect that decision and not make it awkward for her by going back there. It's awkward for me though! But oh well, at least I tried.
  
  For a while I thought, well what if she just lost the piece of paper? But she knows where my shop is and would've made an attempt had the interest been there.
  
  Thanks very much for your comment.
  
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  - Tealights
    
    7 years ago
    
    You're a great guy; I hope you find a girl who will treat you well.
    
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- RamenNoodleMaster#3
  
  7 years ago
  
  totally disagree, he needs to declare his interest. he shouldn't let fate win. Be polite and keep a good tone though, if she really really doesn't want to go out, then give up.
  
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  - Tealights
    
    7 years ago
    
    He already did by asking for her number lol.
    
    It's not fate. Believe it or not, a lot of women have a hard time saying no in fear of the guy getting upset. So we do little things like, "Hey, I'll call you instead!" But never call. Or agree to go out sometime, but quickly walk away without making specific plans on place or time.
    
    It's misleading and confusing, but it's mostly for safety reasons. Oddly enough, a lot of women feel that the guy will get the hint to back off from this vague "yes, but no" approach. OP is smart, and got the hint. If he goes over there and confront her, he'll only make her feel scared and awkward.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      Yeah, about 3 days after I asked her out, one of the other girls that works at her shop walked past my shop looking in at me; when I noticed her she turned back in the direction of her shop and walked back, typing something on her phone as she went. Can't help but feel like that was related like I was somehow judged by these girls. But who knows and to be honest it doesn't bother me its just disappointing cos I find her really attractive and would've liked to have gotten to know her.
      
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      - Tealights
        
        7 years ago
        
        If I had to guess, they were probably anticipating you confronting her and getting more forceful for her attention. Most attractive women have to deal with aggressive guys daily, so you just staying calm and moving on effortlessly probably confused them, especially since you two work just across from each other.
        
        Don't worry about it, it's her lost.
        
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thebadman666

7 years ago

It's about time you took this slut for ride on the rape train, choo choo bitch does this cloth smell like chloroform?

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fluffy1uv

7 years ago

If she doesn't want to she'll just say no. Go for it

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  thanks for sharing your opinion
  
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tittle

7 years ago

She blew her chance. It doesn't have to be awkward, and there's no reason not to have a friendly conversation if she's right next to you. But other than that, move on and don't give her a second thought.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  yeah it's hard, you always want the things you can't have more. I swear she's gotten more attractive since the rejection!
  Thanks for your comment.
  
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  - tittle
    
    7 years ago
    
    Ugh...yeah, believe me I know the feeling. I think of things like that as a mental trick - it's like your brain tricking you. Cos it won't feel like it now, but there could totally be a point where you literally have no interest in her. But just due to the circumstances, it's gone the opposite way...
    Ah, I dunno what I'm trying to say. But try and force yourself to think differently about her (much easier said than done, I know) sometimes visualisation exercises can help - sounds weird, but if you make pictures in your mind of how you *want* to be/feel/think, and mentally replace your current thoughts with that image...it can help. Alright, I'm probably not helping with this weird comment. Good luck anyway! ha..bye
    
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    - tittle
      
      7 years ago
      
      The other thing is - try and be light-hearted about the whole thing. If you can have a good sense of humour/fun about it, that definitely makes things less awkward, takes the sting out of the knockback, and makes you feel better too.
      You tried, which is more than most people can say! So it's like "Ah well, win some ya lose some". Even if you talk to her again, maybe joke about how she had her chance or whatever - ah I dunno - depends what your sense of humour is - but I think that helps a great deal.
      Sorry for these long-winded replies. But you did good by even asking her out, so I think your sitting pretty tbh, defo no need to beat yourself up for doing more than most people would even do.
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        7 years ago
        
        Haha I know what you mean and it's good advice, thank you :)
        
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MR.mr

7 years ago

If you hadn't waited weeks I'd say to go get her number

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  thanks for sharing your opinion
  
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GeneralHater

7 years ago

sometimes girls take your number then don't call because they're caught off guard and don't know what to do in that awkward situation. it's been weeks you said. she could have called you but didn't, knows where you work but didn't go out of her way to talk to you right? don't waste your time, move on.

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xfg34

7 years ago

I voted "Other." Follow her home at night and film her through the windows. Break into her house while she's at work and try on all her clothes, sniff her used panties.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Haha certainly a different approach
  
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dshaiuvdshzivz

7 years ago

I don;t know

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