How to secretly loathe babies?

To begin this, i know how people feel here. I grew up somewhere far away from America. I am not condoning or endorsing either of these lifestyles, so before the judgefest please keep that in mind.
Where i came from, breeding was meant for specifically that. It was not about LOVE and omg romance and oooooh a baby how cute. It was, you get pregnant, have a child that will help with work the moment they can sit upright.
The younger you were, the more expendable you were. I never thought it would be so difficult to adjust to the lifestyle here.
I have moved here originally not by my choice, but i have found happiness. I have found love with a wonderful man who NEVER wants children, and because i don't need several hands to help with a farm or chores, i don't need them.
No i don't have horrible parents. No i am not trashy, or poor, or uneducated, although i do have trouble typing on a phone. The problem is i despise babies. I cannot stand to even be in their presence.
I know what comes next, because i have read the threads. The "You were once one." "You have issues." "You will like it when it's yours."
I am not from here, i have never grown up to love children. In my household they were kind of like rats here. Rats are innocent, eating their scraps, and we come in and snap their necks with traps. It's not like i wish to do that. I respect what a mother has with their child. I love my fiance, and i try to keep in mind that that is what she must feel like.
The difference is that my fiance doesn't inconvenience an entire restaurant if paying customers by crying.
People seem to say to this, "Then go somewhere else." Or something to that degree.
I am trying to level with families and their children, but as i get older i am finding it increasingly difficult. I respect everyone, as much as they respect me. They tell me they are having a child i congratulate them. They ask me, i tell them the truth that it is not for me. They push the issue, i push the issue, and now i am at fault. They say that i will change, that is rude. You don't know me better than i know myself. I did not grow up with the loving baby thing. For that i say i think it's gross you are having a baby. For you saying that who will take care of me when i get older, the money i will save on not buying children things, and not suppressing the need to be taken care of onto my infant.
So i ask you, because people here are very self important it seems, and i am done with it already, how should i live my life knowing that every time i look out the window there is some overweight woman who couldn't seem to get off the couch long enough to lose weight after 3 years of having a kid is running around telling me I'm wrong when i am actually happy, and the only thing her and her husband have in common is a child, and nothing after that.
Then i hear "You secretly want a kid, you're just denying it." To many people in first world countries, and i do respect your opinions because you are from a different upbringing than me, no i do not have a motherly instinct. I have never known any woman where i come from to have this same instinct you have here. Not to say it is wrong, but the mother i knew would not allow crying. You expressed yourself quickly, if it wasn't attended to then, you did nothing. Children were not the center of attention, and if they were particularly loud, they would attract predator animals.
Lastly, i do not hold myself to be right above anyone else. I am not looking to be scolded for how i feel, or how i was raised. I feel i am attempting to be fair, and i am willing to understand. I stated my issue. It is something that i suffer from more and more as i get older. I don't want friends who have children. It bores me. I have no interest. I am not wanting to know why i don't want one. It doesn't bother me that i don't want one. I simply would like to know how to best deal with living in this environment, because at this point i am beginning to say "ew" to people's faces when they tell me they're pregnant. Thank you for your time.