How to lose past feelings for an ex

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So I am in a debate on how to handle this situation:

My sister is friends with one of my ex. In the beginning I would ignore her when she would bring him up. But a year later every time she talks about him and his Gf and about her coworker having a crush on him, I get hurt. I just want to be able to not have past feelings for him and to not give a fuck. Help :( If anybody went through a similar situation I would appreciate your views and how you handled it.

Tell your sister to stop being friends with him 3
Try to keep your mind busy 6
Try to find someone else 8
Time will help you 10
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  • NeuroNeptunian
    7 years ago

    You have to make the decision to be happy for him. I've had that issue and that's what got me over it. Like hey, I loved him and because I loved him I want him to be happy because that's what love is. Being happy for someone's happiness.

    That said, you might want to get another boyfriend like stated above. Psychologically, neurologically, physiologically etc the easiest way to get over someone is to find someone else.

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  • Dad
    7 years ago

    Your sister can remain friends with whoever she likes. But you must tell her to not talk about this old ex around you as it hurts you. I suspect your sister does not know how you feel.

    Regarding how to lose past feelings of your ex. You move on looking towards the future, each time you revert or think back you shrug it off, eventually you won't need to try anymore.

    The common process of breakups is: depression, confusion, anger, more confusion, love-hate, and eventually nothing but a good memory. It would also be nice to skip rope all day long, but generally girls get over this and so will you.

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  • Rusty-Rider
    7 years ago

    If you're not over him after one year, maybe you should find another boyfriend or get back together with him.
    Good luck with your decision.

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