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My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year and we have about a 6 year age gap. He has a LOT of history with other girls when I have little to none with any guys. It’s very difficult for me to cope with the idea of him being someone else. It makes me physically sick and upset. I don’t know how to get over it and the method of “not thinking about it” also isn’t a solution. What do i do?
Ur age gap isn’t that big and my ex has been married b4 but he makes me realise I’m the best girlfriend he ever had and I try not to think about his exes it just does my head in and grosses me out to think of him doing the stuff I know he likes with someone else.
Well first off an important piece of equation is your ages. You older , he older ? Are you 18 and he's 24 or something in that age group ? First off EVERYONE has a past. You have a past, although it's pretty much not a very active one. So long as you know he's not cheating on you then if you know for a fact he's being good and faithful, then you will HAVE to get past his past. If you were with someone else and they had a past, same thing ? You are very insecure, and hopefully not a serious jealous one. Jealousy is like a cancer that will eat people up and cause nothing but problems.
To get past his past if he's being good to you- then just stop and remember he's with you now. There will have to be a point in time that you will realize they are not a threat to your relationship, unless you know for a fact they are a threat then c.y.a.(cover your ass). Also, remember to think positive. Negativity breeds negativity. Again, I could go.on, but I feel your ages could play a big part in your learning how to get past his past.
He’s older, I’m 19 and he’s 25. He shows me in every way that he loves me and I know he is 100% faithful. Also the thing is I’ve never been the jealous type!! That’s why I’m struggling so much with this. I hear everything you’re saying and I greatly appreciate it! Definitely very helpful.
Would you feel better to meet his ex's to see For yourself they pose no real danger or threat ? I'm telling you tho,I'm a guy and if you want the relationship to make it another 6 months you will have to work past the issues. (You would probably have a hard time with someone like myself. I am a crossdresser, it took me 25 years to accept myself) and I would say just focus on the fact that he's with you now, he's not cheating, he treats you wonderful, you say, and well you and him are happy ? I'm this case, you are the better woman, at this point You are Winning. Think positive.
I'm really not sure there's much you can do. This is a drawback of a big 'experience' gap in relationships.