How to get over someone ?

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I dated someone for a short while everything was good, I mean everything then 5 mins later everything was not okay with him, said he wasn’t ready and he left. I was pretty happy and after dating and chatting to loads of ‘not my type/the one guys’ I finally thought I’d found my reflection but with a ding. He was exactly like me.
Anyway he left for whatever reasons he did. And I’ve been on dates since and I’m talking to people and I do try I really do and even though it doesn’t hurt anymore I find myself missing the boy. Yeh I compare other boys to him. But I just can’t shake him no matter how hard I try. I’ve deleted everything about him. When I find myself thinking about him I try and think of something else.
It’s like my gut instincts say he will be back.
My heart says chase him.
And my head says I miss him.
I tried to chase him but it failed. So I deleted everything. He blocked me as yeah.
My friend my good friend said for whatever reason he left he will regret it. But I’m sure he’s doing fine and I’m doing the opposite. No one has ever put the effort in like he did, ever.

Plus time is ticking I’m 24 and still not really been with a man. And this bothers me a lot.

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  • Whatintarnation
    5 years ago

    First of all, 24 is young. You have loads of time to find Mr. Right and be fall crazy in love. Secondly, playing head games like: He'll realize what he gave up and come back or I just need to wait for him, etc. will only drive you insane.

    I read it takes the typical person 18 months to get over someone. It's been longer than that for me in the past and I know people who are still in love with people that their relationships ended years ago.

    There's no magic trick but you just gotta get up each day and do whatever it takes. Just don't live in the past. It's not heathly and will only take you down.

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  • TheMightyOz
    5 years ago

    I asked Siri.

    Here's how to get over him:

    1. Distance yourself. The first and most important thing you can do is get distance. ...
    2. Accept your negative emotions. ...
    3. Surround yourself with support. ...
    4. Write a list of qualities you liked about him. ...
    5. Write an equal list of things you disliked about him. ...
    6. Focus on yourself. ...
    7. Get back out there.

    https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/how-to-get-over-a-guy/1542161

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  • LornaMae
    5 years ago

    Is this you again, lil' lady?! Hahahaha :P

    Whether it is or isn't, move the fuck on!

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  • Aliceee93
    5 years ago

    I’ll be honest. Any decent man won’t bother about how many sexual partners or your age etc. I think any man would be honoured to be your first. Correct me if I’m wrong!

    About your situation you just have to keep dating putting yourself out there, men are idiots. And I’ll bet your friend is right he will realise what he’s lost when he starts dating new people or when time has passed men need time and a lot of it sometimes to realise what they had. And if he does come back around then you must’ve meant something to him. If he doesn’t then it wasn’t meant to be.

    However he won’t come back around while you’re still thinking about him. It just won’t happen. Try to keep moving forward.

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    The best way to get over a guy is to get under another one. :-)

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    If you love something let it go. If it returns it is yours. If it doesn't hunt it down and kill it. :)

    Seriously, have you tried talking to him and let him know how you really feel about him?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Does letting it go mean stop thinking about it ?

      I did at the beginning then he stopped replying... then when he blocked me I tried again but I was upset and I acted like I wasn’t bothered but I told him how I felt and he didn’t respond. Just feel like there’s something he isn’t telling me.

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      • lordofopinions
        5 years ago

        If he has blocked you then take a hint. It's obvious you are not the one for him. Cut your loss and get out there and find someone else. It's the only logical solution.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          He didn’t block me straight away though. And hasn’t blocked my number. Back in the game but they aren’t him.

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  • CDmale4fem
    5 years ago

    The best way to get over someone is to get under someone.

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    • lordofopinions
      5 years ago

      Ha ha! So true if you are female or get on or behind someone else if you are male. 😀

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